This is my mother. She left me when I was just 14 years old. I saw her a few times from teenage through the typical college years (although I didn’t have typical college years) and then she passed away before I married or had children. She was a wonderful woman that I know I would talk to her often if she were alive, but I really never got the chance.

The most current entries are things I would tell her and only her ... because they aren’t meant to be heard, just vented (if she were alive). The majority of this blog are letters she wrote to me (and a few to my sisters) during the years that we were apart.

Saturday, January 30, 1982

January 30, 1982

My Dearest Betsy,
Recieved your two letters and the inviations.  It really sounds like it will be a lovely reception.  I have only $22 in my checking account until my Social Security check comes so I have no money.  I am sadly afraid I am not going to be able to come.  If I fly the airplane fair is $250 round trip plus motel and food.  Grandma and Grandpa are afraid to drive me at this time of year.  I have to keep my feet up most of the time.  Plus the storms of winter have been bad and we could get stranded and my feet would be lost.
I want to come so very much but I don't know how I can afford to fly at this time.  Plus Sandy is still in the hospital and I can't see her yet.  She is starting to improve thought. I am reading a very good book on Anorexia Nervosa and it is just like Sandy.  I hope she will soon be well.  This is a long process disease.  She will have to have a tutor to go on with school.
We are getting freezing rain sleet and snow.  A real mess!  This is a very hard winter.
A friend took me to a lovely restaurant for an early celebration of my birthday.  I ordered a large chef salad and a bowl of French Onion soup and it was served with one inch thick melted Swiss cheese.  It was delicious but salty.  I really hold fluids.  I am really on a salt free diet.  My friend will be in Florida on my birthday.
I made 2 polyester dresses and cut this kettlecloth one out tonight which I am enclosing.  I enjoy sewing for myself.
I go to bed fairly early every night and watch TV read or knit or write a letter.
Grandma and Grandpa went to the store tonight for me as it was too cold for me.  I do get out and got me a pair of boots to wear in the cold.
The name of the book on Anorexia Nervosa is call "The Golden Cage" if you wnat to get it at a bookstore.  The author is Hilde Brunch, MD.
A couple from church came the past two days and helped me put up pictures, etc.  I thought that was so nice of them.
My good friend, Julie, has been in a wheel chair since age 11 and a big help to me.  She is really overweight but has a heart of gold.  She crochets all the time.  I can drink one cup of coffee everyday.  I really love it and look forward to it.  I get up at 6:30 am every morning.  Tomorrow I hope I get to church with the bad weather.  How is your asthma?  I hope you are doing okay.
I hope you can understand about my not being able to come to the reception.  I am so sorry I can't and feel sick about it.  I can't take a chance of frost biting my feet plus I really don't have the money.  I wish it was less to fly.  Please try to understand.  I love you so much and miss you.  My heart longs to see you and wish I could be with you on your special day.
Please write me soon or call me at ….  I love to hear from you.  I look forward to the mail everyday.
Did I tell you I got my hair cut really short?  It looks better and it's easier to take care of.  It is so thick.  I wash it tonight.
Give my love to Kirstie.  Ask her to write me.
Please, honey.  I love you dearly and miss you.  Write when you can.  I am proud of you and your good grades, etc.
I will be 40 years old in a few days.  Hard to believe.
I love you and miss you.

All my love,
Your loving mom