March 31, 1990 Sally

Dear Sally,

So  much is happening which isn't all good (What a way to start a letter)!  We have had 2 custody hearings and another April 6.  Sandy has to testify then.  She went back to school full time and stopped Mellaul.  Now she called today 2 x from school to say she didn't feel well and wanted to come home.  I didn't let her as she always pulls this.  She is trying out for softball and track.  I think she is still sick.  She refuses to live with Garry and Alison but she misses the girls.  I called Kirstie on her birthday.  She sounds so sad.  Betsy sounds great.  I miss them.  Sandy is lazy and she yells so much at me.  I am very lonely but trying to keep busy with church and all.  Garry, Alison and the girls all went to Oakton, VA Ward on Sunday for all meetings.  He is making himself look so good.  He had his attorney question me for 2 straight hours.  He is trying to say I am financially physically and mentally incompetent.  He will probably get custody and cost thousands of dollars and I will pay all my life.  The psych for Sandy wrote a letter to the court on Garry's behalf saying I should have Sandy until the summer, then live with Garry forever.  I was furious.  You can tell who pays his bill.  We are going to a new psych for adolescent tomorrow for Sandy and I pray he helps her and us.  Otherwise I will lose Sandy to Garry.  He moved into his big new apartment.  Sandy's psych doctor said I could not provide for her.  I will get food from food truck (welfare LDS) tomorrow.  The Bishop wants me to practice my violin and play in Sacrament meeting.  Relief Society lesson is this Saturday at 9:30.  I plan to go.  Sandy goes to Mutual every Tuesday night and plays volleyball.  She has lots of friends.  The minister that married me and who was to be a character witness for me died March 23 suddenly.  He absolutely despised Garry. I feel the loneliness of divorce now.  Not the anger, hurt as much as missing someone to love. Do you still want Sandy part of the summer?  Betsy is going to CA also so she says.  She goes, goes, goes!  Well, I am out of room.  I miss not hearing from you.  The girls don't write and it hurts.  Garry gets all credit after I raised them to young ladies.  I hope you are all well and hopefully happy.  Thank Heavenly Father for your beautiful family.  I love you all so much.  Write soon.  All my love,

Judy

March 16, 1982 Sally

Dear Sally,

Today was another court hearing.  The psychiatrist Sandy has wrote a letter for Garry saying Sandy should spend the rest of the school year with me and then live permanently with her dad.  Now I am just sick and Sandy is furious.  This will involve a couple more hearings.  Sandy got a blessing last night for the hearing today.  She says she will live in a foster home before she lives with Garry.  Now it is all going to cost a lot of money that I don't have.  Please pray for April 6th - please!  Sandy is happy here with me.  Why does Garry want her now.  She weighs 112# and looks good.  She got well with me.  I bet she'd get sick back with Garry.  He never buys her all this medicine.

I see the Bishop on Sunday at 2:30 to tell him everything and see if he can help.  I am going to be a Visiting Teacher too.  I hope my legs can do it.  I still read my scriptures every day.  It really does help.  I have been so weepy and depressed.  My breast are sore and I must have a hormone imbalance.  I see a doctor May 31st.  I take a lot of medicines.  Can you find Sandy some Orowheat Branola Muffins.  They are really good but none in Ohio and she loves them and they help her bowels.

Please write soon.  Tell everyone I said "HI" and to write me.

Love,
Judy

March 12, 1982

Dear Betsy,
I hope you have a very Happy Birthday.  I sent your present last week.  Did you get your reception gift?  Grandma and Grandpa are worried their gift broke.  I hope it didn't.  I have little news.  Sandy is busy a lot and is presently doing homework.  It is raining outside and we still have lots of dirty snow.  I wish Spring would come.  Then by summer it will be too hot for me.  How is your weather?  I hope to call you on your birthday. What is your new phone #.  Remember how very much I love you.  I looked at your picture I have out today and I cired of how much I miss my Betsy.   I hope you are happy.  Please try and write me.

I love you,
Your mom