This is my mother. She left me when I was just 14 years old. I saw her a few times from teenage through the typical college years (although I didn’t have typical college years) and then she passed away before I married or had children. She was a wonderful woman that I know I would talk to her often if she were alive, but I really never got the chance.

The most current entries are things I would tell her and only her ... because they aren’t meant to be heard, just vented (if she were alive). The majority of this blog are letters she wrote to me (and a few to my sisters) during the years that we were apart.

Tuesday, November 24, 1981

November 1981

Dear Betsy,
So good to hear from you.  I enjoyed your letter and understand.  I pray all things work to your good.  Remember to trust in God always.  I pray for you every night.  I love you and miss you.  I am no longer getting welfare, food stamps or Medicaid.  I am hurting money ways.  My rent is highter than my income and there is no low income housing available.  I am trying to cover my legs and feet and ignore the pain and heat and swelling.
Tomorrow I go on Hanicap Van to the mall to look for a present for you and your sisters for Christmas.  How is Rainbow now?  When will Sandy soon.  This apartment is too big for just me.  I hope you have a nice Thanksgiving.  I'll go to mom and dad's with Aunt Ida.  It is also Grandpa's birthday.  He'll be 64.  I am watching "Dallas" now.  Do you watch it?  I spend too much time on TV.  Our weather is cold, rain/snow and windy.  It is hard on my feet and legs.  Hope you are well.  I miss you so much and I love you with all my heart.  Please keep writing me.  I love to hear from you.  Take care of yourself and remember me and my love for you.

All my love,
Your mom

Saturday, October 31, 1981

October 31, 1981

Dear Betsy, Sandy, and Kirstie,
I enclosed the payment for your Teen Magazine.  Ask your dad to pay it for you.  How are all of you?  I haven't been very well. I had to see Dr. Jones yesterday.   My blood pressure went way down and he said I had to stay off of my feet.  Plus my neck and back hurt so much.  I can't take medicine for them my body will hold fluid.  I am very nervous and worried.  Please take a little time and write me.  I am so lonely.  I still have my cold and it is in my chest.
How is school going?  I hope well for all of you.  I really have little news except sickness.  Tonight is Halloween.  Are you going out?  Remember I love you and miss you.  Remember me, please.

All my love,
Mom

Friday, October 23, 1981

October 23, 1981

Dear Betsy,
I was so happy to receive your letter today.  You do sound busy.  That is the way I was.  I am glad you can do all those things.  I wish I could do more than write letters, read and watch TV.  I can write again.  MAYO Clinic said it would never function again.  I am so grateful.  My feet are really cold today as our weather has been so cold tonight.  Grandma and Grandpa were in Virginia until last night and are going to Tennesee  and Kentucky and then home.  They were supposed to go to Uncle Dick's but that had lots of rain and damage and Aunt Judy said Aunt Judy said not to come.
Aunt Ida got some groceries for me today.  I am watching "The Dukes of Hazzard."  I like it and "Dallas."  Do you watch TV?  Do you have a lot of homework?  Your grades look really good.  I am proud of you!  You are doing great with Rainbows.  I really do appreciate your long letter.  I have been thinking of flying there and staying in a hotel and get to see you.
I am glad you enjoy Sandy.  I miss her.  I keep thinking she is still here.  Well, I am out of news and room.  Take care of yourself.  I love you, honey and miss you.

All my love,
Mom

Thursday, October 8, 1981

October 8, 1981

Dear Betsy, Sandy and Kirstie,
I decided to write one letter because I would repeat everything if I wrote each of you separately.
Tonight I went to Social Ministries Meeting and I volunteered to help a lot.  It will keep me busy.  Tomorrow I meet William for coffee to talk at Bob Evans.  I sure miss you girls.  I keep looking and listening for Sandy to come home.  I am afraid I will have to quit coffeee as it hurts my stomach.  My shoulder hurts so much that I had to ask Dr. Jones for a muscle relanant.  It helps a lot.
It was lovely out today but it is to frost-freeze tonight.
I hope you had a good plane trip, Sandy.  I will get your boxes off soon.  I did all the linens.  Do you want the red and white checked things for your room?  Let me know.
October 9, 1981
I got my ears pierced and my studs are my birth stone.  They are pretty.  I hope they work out this time.  I am at Perkins right now.  The Social Ministry was good last night.  I will be busy. I have lots of people to and programs to arange.
I have to get a heating for my shoulder and back.  I can hardly turn my neck today.
Sandy, how does it feel to be in Fairfax again?  I hope all is well and you are happy.  I am going to finish "Chesapeake."  Are you still going to be able with German?
I wish you would write me.  I am getting sleepy.  I had plenty of sleep, also.
How is school for you, Kirstie?  Do you have lots of homework?  Betsy, how is school going?  How is Rainbows?  You have a nice group of friends I am sure.
Well, I am out of news so I will quit for now.  Take care.  Remember that I love you all dearly.  Remember me.  I love you so much.

All my love,
Your mom

Lots of love and kisses to you.

PLEASE WRITE ME!

Friday, September 25, 1981

September 25, 1981

Dear Betsy and Kirstie,
How are you doing?  I haven't heard from you in ages.  I miss your letters.  How is school going for you.  Sandy is busy.  She has lots of homework.  Her foot is better.  I am taking her to the doctor on Monday for a check up.  She hardly eats.  How is your asthma, Betsy?  I hope it is better.  It has been cool to cold here.  My feet like that kind of weather.  We like the new apartment.  It is not so crowded and is cheerful.  There is still a lot to do.
I am still reading "The Wildest Heart" and "Chesapeake."  Sandy is selling magazine for school.  I am lonely.  Time goes so slowly.
Kirstie, how is your big toe doing?  I hope it is better and gone.  (Please excuse my scribbling but I am tired.)  My had is better and I am so glad.  It cramps a lot which I think is a good sign.  I can knit slowly and I wnat to try to hook a rug.
Sandy has lots of homework most every night.  She likes German and speaks it well.
So how did the wedding go?  I thought of you both all day.  Was it nice?  I hope they are happy and all goes well for everyone.  How many people came?  Write and tell me.  My new address is: …
Well, I have no more news.  I miss you both very much.  I wish you could come and live with me.  Do you miss me?
Take care of yourselves.  Please write me as soon as possible.  I love you.

All my love,
Mom

I love you!!

Sunday, September 20, 1981

September 20, 1981 Sally

Dear Sally,

I am writing this letter and will get it copied because of the limited use of my right hand.  For the past 6 months I have had no use in it.  Then last week it regained some usage.  It is hard to write but I have no typewriter now.

I went to MAYO clinic in Rochester, Minnesota for my legs and hands, etc. in June 28.  They put me in the hospital for 2 weeks and ran all tests.  They came up with 3 diseases all of which there is no known cause, cure or treatment.  They all called Erythremalagia, Vasculitis and Acgrocyanosis.  I have learn to live with either hot burning, painful feet and knees or cold ones.  Plus they said the use of my right hand was gone forever but it is improving.  I see a psychologist weekly.  I am still on Welfare with food stamps.  


Garry and I were officially divorced June 12, 1981.  He is in VA now with Betsy and Kirstie.  He got married to a 27 year old Allison last night.  They have been living together since March 1980.  Sandy lives with me.  She is 14 years old but wants to be about 16 or more.

My new apartment is nicer.  It has central air conditioning and gas heat (this is a must with my feet and legs).

Garry forged our equity check (forged my name) and cost is anxiety and money.  I still can't believe he did it.  I'll never be able to trust him again.

I am very lonely and would love to hear from you.  I have a wheelchair and 2 canes to help me walk.  I wish I could do more for myself.

Well, I will close and hopefully get this letter mailed.  My parents took me to MAYO.  They are both okay.  Mom has colitis from worry over me.  Please write soon.

Love,
Judy

PS:  I can't remember when I wrote last or what I said.  Did I pay you for the bread?  Please let me know.  I am bored and nervous and can't concentrate on things.  Please write soon.
Hope you are all well.

Tuesday, August 4, 1981

August 4, 1981

Dear girls,
Just a short note to let you know that I am thinking of you and miss you so much.  In a week you will be getting ready to come and stay with me.  I can hardly wait to see you.  It has been 18 months for 2 of you.  I may get a new apartment and you can help me move into it.  I hope you are anxious to come.  I probably can't afford to feed you expensive food or take you out much.  I hope you have fun.  I really love and am really looking forward to your visit.  Grandma and Grandpa are supposed to get you on the 12th and bring you here.  Now they are counting the money and want me to let you come by bus.  Oh, what a mess.  I wish I could come and get you myself.  I am still trying to read.  I am so lonely and I don't get letters from you.  Why don't you write?  Millie took me to breakfast this morning at the Pancake house and I had a delicious bow of oatmeal, juice and 7 grain toast, egg, Sanka, and strawberries.  It was delicious and expensive.  They make all their things from scratch and use the purest ingredients.  They made the oatmeal with cream.  I am struggling to knot and embroider.  It is frustrating.  I want to go the school and get a job in the far future.   I would like to become a psychologist but it takes lots of time and money.  I could also go into nutrition.  It is really hot and humid here today.  It is hard on my feet and legs.  Betsy, have your dad take some pictures of you as I have none.  I have all your animals on my bed and sleep with them.  I wish I could get interested in a book to read.  I am so lonely and bored.  I had some coffee this noon on the way home from the doctor.  Well I am out of space and want to get this mailed.  Please remember I LOVE YOU.  Write!  See you soon.  All my love,

Mom

Sunday, July 19, 1981

July 19, 1981

Dear Sandy,

Just a short note on a borrowed typewriter to let you know that I love you.  I went with the handicapped society last night to Southwich from 7-10 PM.  I have to use gloves or my hands get cut.  I also get burned on the burners.  I don't use the dishwasher for just my dishes so I do them after a meal.  A couple friends gave me paper plates and cups to help.  I still use my mugs all the time.  I also got to go to the Mall today because I was bored and nervous.  It was packed because of a sidewalk sale.  I returned my TABU and got a large one for the 2 small ones.  The small ones turned me brown but the newer one doesn't.  It was the same price.  I love that smell.  I use all my colognes.  I wash up before bed.  Tonight I am going to go to be by midnight and get up about 5:30 because it is cooler then and eat my breakfast here and make the bed and do the dishes and pick up the clutter and then go to Sourdough Charlie's.  I can get all the coffee and Sanka I want for a dime from 6:30 - 8:00 AM  and it is good and they will let me read as long as I want.  Remember all the times we went and all the times you got me coffee.  Such good memories.  I am really nervous lately.  I don't know why.  I can't sleep either.  Grandma is still sick and her stomach hurts.  Dr. Jones says it is colitis.   I am reading The Wildest Heart by Rosemary Rodgers.  I really like it.  I am almost done with Chesapeake.  Did you see the move "The Other side of the Mountain"  on 2 nights this past week?  It was good.  I am knitting also and trying to sew but it is hard to do.  I am glad you are happy.  I surely do miss you and your company.  It is lonely here and quiet.  Time drags.  The sun has been in for two days and my feet are better.  Remember you can come here anytime.  I want you.  Patti wants you for babysitting.  Do you save your money?  I have non at the present time.  Someone can come and get you anytime you want.  I hope Betsy is OK.  Is Shirley having fun?  Are you in Rainbows there?  Do you hear from Nancy Reed?  Millie Edwards is finally back in town as of yesterday.  We are good friends.  I also have a good friend named Joyce Neal who was a patient at MCO that I took care of.  She does a lot for me.  She is planning on taking me to the Franklin Park Mall tomorrow night and we are eating at the York Steak House there also.  She is treating since I am so poor.  She brought me potatoes, corn and onions the other day.  She brings her daughter, Jackie, who is 12 and very mature.  A really nice girl.  Charlotte and Ron were on a trip in Kentucky and were hit by a car and lost their car but no one was hurt.  Lori is now married and happy.  Dad put the mill and mixer down the basement because I can not handle them.  I can't lift with my hands anything heavy paper unless Dad brings it after he reads it.  Do you ever go to church there?  I go to the Lutheran most of the time if it is cool out.  Judy Pelot gave me Joni book 2 to read but she is acting strange since I am back.  She and Audrey seem to think God can make me well and not to see a psychiatrist or take any pills for the head.  It is OK to take them for anything else.  I don't agree with them.  I am really nervous inside.  This is very hard to accept being handicapped with my hand now also.  I feel so helpless and yet I try to do everything I can for myself.  I may get a different apartment that has better heating and cooling for my feet.  Winter will hurt them as it did last year.  I can't afford any new and none are available before September.  The rent here is good for what I have.

July 19, 1981

Dear Sandy,

Just a short note on a borrowed typewriter to let you know that I love you.  I went with the Handicapped Society last night to Southwich from 7-10 pm.  I have to use gloves or my hands get cut.  I also get burned on the burners.  I don't use the dishwasher for just my dishes so I do them after a meal.  A couple of friends gave me paper plates and cups to help.  I still use my mugs all the time.  I also get to go to the mall today because I was bored and nervous.  It was packed because of a sidewalk sale.  I returned my TABU and got a larger one for the 2 small ones.  The small ones turned me brown but the newer one doesn't.  It was the same price.  I love that smell.  I use all my colognes.  I wash up before bed.  Tonight I am going to go to bed by midnight and get up about 5:30 am because it is cooler then and eat my breakfast here and make the bed and do the dishes and pick up the clutter and then go to Sourdough Charlies.  I can get all the coffee and Sanka I want for a dime from 6:30 - 8:00 am and it is good and they will let me read as long as I want.  Remember all the times we went and all the times you got me coffee.  Such good memories.  I am really nervous lately.  I don't know why.  I can't sleep either.  Grandma is still sick and her stomach hurts.  Dr. Jones says it is colitis.  I am reading "The Wildest Heart" by Rose Mary Rogers.  I really like it.  I am almost done with "Chesapeake."  Did you see the movie "The Other Side of the Mountain 2" this past week?  It was good.  I am knitting also and trying to sew but it is hard to do.  I am glad you are happy.  I surely do miss you and your company.  It is lonely here and quiet.  Time drags.  The sun has been in for 2 days and my feet are better.  Remember you can come here anytime.  I want you.  Patti want you for babysitting.  Do you save your money?  I have none at the present time.  Someone can come and get you anytime you want.  I hope Betsy is okay.  Is Shirley having fun?  Are you in Rainbow there?  Do you hear form Nancy Reed?  Millie Edwards is finally back in town as of yesterday.  We are good friends.  I also have a good friend named Joyce Neal who was a patient at MCO that I took care of.  She does a lot for me.  She is planning on taking me to the Franklin Park Mall tomorrow night and we are sting at the York Steak House there also.  She is treating since I am so poor.  She brought me potatoes, corn and onions the other day.  She brings her daughter, Jackie, who is 12 and very mature.  A really nice girl.  Charlotte and Ron were on a trip in Kentucky an were hit by a car and lost their car but no one was hurt.  Lori is now married and happy.  Dad put the mill and mixer down the basement because I can not handle them.  I can't lift with my hands anything heavy so I can't use heavy bowls or pans.  I don't get the newspaper unless Dad brings it after he reads it.  Do you ever go to church there?  I go to the Lutheran most of the time if it is cool outside.  Judy Pelet gave me Joni book 2 to read but she is acting strange since I am back.  She and Audrey seem to think God can make me well and not to see a psychiatrist or take any pills for the head.  It is okay to take them for anything else.  I don't agree with them.  I am really nervous inside. This is very hard to accept being handicapped with my hand now also.  I feel so helpless and yet I try to do everything I can for myself.  I may get a different apartment that has better heating and cooling for my feet.  Winter will hurt them as it did last year.  I can't afford any new and none are available before Sept.  The rent here is good for what I have.  I should offer an ad for someone to live with me to keep me company and help with the vacuuming.  I want a new cleaner and typewriter.  I want to sell the violin since I won't be able to play with my hands.  It is worse than when you saw it last.  Without the brace it drops.  I talked to Lois at the Health Food Store twice lately and she really liked you.  She helps me.  I got honey, sunflower seeds, yogurt, juice, peanut butter, carob powder for milk, chewable vit C like you like.  I had coupons for most of them.  I got 7 grain bread also.  Well, I must close and soak my sore bottom in the tub and read my book.  I will write Kirstie tonight.  Plese write me soon.  I miss your letters.  Please!  Remember I love you and miss you.

All my love for you,

Mommykins

Friday, July 17, 1981

July 17, 1981

Dear Betsy,

Thank you for your letter.  I was so happy to get it.  Being in St. Mary's in Rochester was a real experience.  I have been checked all over.  I have home one week.  It is real hot here.  My hand is permanently damaged and this is my best writing.  I hope I can borrow a typewriter soon.  This is hard for me to do.  My left hand is weak.  My dad took me to the mall.  Thursday night and put my wheel chair up.  I shopped all over but have no money.  I saw so many lovely Rainbow things.  I didn't even price them.  I don't have enough money for August's rent.  I hope I can see you soon.  It has been too long.  Are you enjoying Shirley's visit.  I hope you do.  Are you sewing?  I can't cut with the scissors but try.  I want to make Christmas presents.  I am fortunate that I learned to throw my yarn with my left forefinger.  So I knit and read a lot.

I go outside in early morning or late night if I go at all.  I have lots of trouble walking.

Grandma is very sick.  She had to go to the hospital a few days ago.  She has colitis and is on a bland diet.  I'll write soon.  I hope you will write soon.  I love you very much and always will WRITE .

All my love,
Mom

Sunday, July 5, 1981

July 5, 1981

Hi,

Just a short note while in this 930 bed hospital to tell all three of you how much I miss and care about you and I love you so much.  I hope you are all OK and having a good summer.  I keep singing "Somewhere over the Rainbow".  I read Emergency Nurse and it was really good.  Grandpa drove here Thursday.  Mimi was put to sleep.   She was too old.  This medical center is so big.  I miss you and love you.  Remember me please in your prayers.

Love your mom
Forever

Tuesday, June 30, 1981

June 30, 1981

Dear Betsy,

I am in St. Mary's Hospital here in Rochester, Minnesota.  It is a 930 beds.  Big!  They will be doing lots of tests and try to control my legs and feet as they hurt.  Grandma is with me.  She is a big help.  We read too.  I hope I can see you soon.  Escuse my writing.  My room is #2150. I love you very much and Miss you.

Love,
Mom

Tuesday, June 16, 1981

June 16, 1981

Dear Betsy, Sandy and Kirstie,

I am writing to all of you on the same stationary as I wanted to send these three little gifts to you to let you know that I think of you all the time and I miss you very much.  I wish I could see you.  I am supposed to go to MAYO clinic on the 28th of June through Detroit.  I will probably be there one week.  I am scared of what they will say as my feet really hurt.  Tomorrow is prayer group at 6:30 and I hope I can make it there.

Today I went no where as it was so humid and hot and my feet were really sore.  I made banana not bread a few nights ago.  I cleaned the apartment last night but I messed it up today.  I am still trying to read and getting fat.  How are all of you?  Is school over yet?  When are you coming here?  I see the doctors tomorrow and also go to physical therapy for my hand.  It cooled off a lot tonight.  It has been so hot and humid here.  We had lots of rain.  Grandpa is going to play golf in the morning.  He will enjoy it very much.  I have a prayer group at 6:30 AM.  A friend is taking me to breakfast on Thursday.  It is a sourdough Charlie's and they have a good breakfast so all say.  Uncle Dick's birthday is Saturday and he will be 37 years old.  It is already midnight and I am still up.  I have to soak my feet yet and set up my breakfast so I can eat easier when I get home from the prayer group.  Sandy, I hope to send you Heidi like you said you wanted.  Are you coming back here to live with me or what  Please express how you really feel.  I wish all of you would write me.  I look every day for a letter.  I need to do my devotionals more than I do.  I read but not enough.  I want to sew and mend some clothes.  I need material as Betsy has all I liked and used.  Well, for the past 2 days Sandy hasn't called me in the morning.  What happened?  Is it too much trouble?  I am nothing but problems.  I am on some new medicine and they make me sleepy during the day.  All morning I am so tired and have to force myself to move.  I have lots of phone calls to make.  I miss you all so much.  Why does this have to happen like this?  Why couldn't we have been a happy family?  I am so lonely.  At least you are all together.  I am scare to go to MAYO.  It really costs a lot of money.  I guess I really have no good news at this time.  I hope you have a nice day this Sunday with your Father on his day.  You must serve him breakfast in bed.  He would like that.

I hope you are all happy.  I miss you so much.  I can never tell you how much I love you in words on paper.  Please remember me and how much I love you and always will.  I am so sorry that I had to get so ill that I couldn't care for you.  Always remember that you are so very dear in my heart and I love you all with all my heart.  Uncle Dick has a birthday on the 20th.  Do you hear from your friends?  I wish that you would write me.  I am going to do some reading now and mending.  I sure miss you not being here, Sandy.  Do you miss me?  WRITE!  I have to worry about getting a few groceries.  I'd like to see a movie also but I haven't the money for all that.  I don't know how  I'd get along without Food Stamps.  It is 81 degrees now.  It was cool early this morning.  Really nice for my feet.  I eat ice cream every night now and really look forward to it.  Do you all eat well?  Are you dieting?  You look nice in your pictures.  Mom and Aunt Ida went to a luncheon with the Pinochile Club and then to the theater to see "Hello Dolly."  I hope they had a good time.  Dad went golfing and the Heatherdowns Country Club all day.  I hope he had fun.  He needs to get out more and use up his energy.  Are you babysitting much these days?  Have you many friends?  I hope so.  Elaine was over on Sunday.  She is working 3-11 PM now part time and going to school to get her RN.  She is a good friend.  She is tired today and started her period and has a headache.  I still use her typewriter.  I don't know what I would do without it.  My hand has not improved and it is discouraging.  I wish I could afford to go out to eat tonight as I am so tired of eating alone every night.  I may bake some muffins or bread tonight.  The church could use some on Sunday.  Well, I must close so this can get mailed.  I hope you are all well.  Please write to me soon ….. all of you!  When can you come to visit?  Remember that I love you all very much.  Take care of yourselves.  I love you.

All my love,


Mom

Friday, June 12, 1981

June 12, 1981

Dear Betsy,

I hope by the time you get this letter that your finals are over.  I hope that you did well.  I miss your not writing me and it sounds like your dad hasn't been telling you that I called.  I am lonely today.  My feet are sore and swollen and it is hot outside.  I go to MAYO clinic on the 28th for a week, hopefully.  Lori is getting married this Friday night and it is a big wedding.  I wish you could go.  She is such a cute girl and it is going to be a super wedding.  Well, I have a four month old kitten and it is a tiger color and really lovable.  I think I will name him Samson.  It is cute and I will try to get a picture of him.  Maybe a friend can take one of me holding him outside since I have no flash attachment.  I would love to sew but need Grandma's if I do and that is a lot of trouble.  I wear shorts most of the time because of my legs.  The mail just came and I got a card from the Rainbow assembly.  Tell them thank you very much.  I hope that all of you enjoy Rainbows.  I miss you so much and am so lonely right now.  I wish I could see you.  When will your dad let you come to see me?  I made apple coffee cake the other  night and gave it to a friend.  I squeezed 3 pounds of oranges that Sandy left in the basement.  Tell her there were three pounds apples and three pounds rotten onions down in the basement also.  What a mess.  It is 80 outside.  I think the humidity is making my legs worse.  My back bothers me lately because they stopped all the meds for it because of the two ulcers.  It is a losing battle.  My living room and kitchen are a mess as I have been trying to clean out boxes of things from the basement.  Samson thinks he is supposed to help me all the time.  He loves to sit on my lap.  He scratched my leg last night when he jumped into the wheel chair.  I wish Sandy could see my new wheel chair and my canes.  She would be proud of me walking.  I do look handicapped and it is hard to take but I am better than I was thanks to God and all the answered prayers.  I only wish I had you children and could love you and be your mom.  My heart breaks and the tears run when I think of you.  Your cat is in my bed all the time and sleeps with me and so do Sandy's and Kirstie's animals.  I hope you are well and happy.  Please try and write me.  I love to hear from you and it seems like ages since you wrote.  Are you going to summer school?  I hope you pass good old Geometry.  I feel for you as it was my favorite subject.  I started to read The Wildest Heart by Rosemary Rodgers.  It is good but I have other books I want to read.  I love to read and it is the one thing I can still do.  I wear my glasses most all the time now.  Well, I must close.  You write me soon.  Remember that I love you so very much.  Say a prayer for me.  I love you.

Love,
Mom

Thursday, June 4, 1981

June 4, 1981 Sally

Dear Sally,

It was sure good to talk with you tonight.  I am so lonely and scared.  I go to MAYO clinic on the 28th by plane.  I am scared of getting there and what the outcome will be.  Everyone here seems to think I belong there.  I wish I had more faith.  I my have to change climates.  I have been much worse here with the increased humidity.  I would have to live somewhere alone most likely and where there were good medical facilities.  It is so lonely without Sandy.  I think she is happy with her sisters and that is important.  I am sure Garry will take care of her.  I miss them so much.  It has been so long since I saw them last.  I can now walk some with the use of a cane and have my own private wheel chair.  It is nice.  I have a walker and a pair of crutches also.  It finally rained here tonight which was needed and maybe my feet will be better.  I just go them cool in cold water.  It took over an hour.  They are still swollen badly.  I went to the store tonight and got a few necessities. I can hardly make it.  My parents want to take me to a steak house for supper and I hope I can go.  They have a big salad bar and that is what I love.  I still eat my big breakfast and egg or meat or cottage cheese.  I have started to gain some weight also.  I hope I can exercise some day and move it around.  I still have no use of my right hand and have to go to physical therapy every day at 3:30.  It is very frustrating to have this palsy.  I c. if she knows anything about MAYO.  If she does left me know.  I know nothing about the area.  I hope my mother still goes.  It is scary but hopefully all will go well.

June 5

My one visiting teacher is supposed to call tomorrow and see if I need anything.  My dad runs errands a lot and I go to therapy every day at the hospital on my hand.  I saw the psychiatrist yesterday and he will be seeing me regularly after I go to MAYO.  I like him.  I am on Welfare so I think the State pays for it since I have no money.  I am now soaking the feet and ankles are so swollen.  I think it is the humidity.  I will probably have to move to a dry climate.  I hope I will move close to you all.  My phone bill is high this month and I shouldn't use it at all.  I get so lonely now with Sandy gone.  She left before I came home from the hospital.  I then had to box her things and send them plus I cleaned all the drawers and closets out and put my things in them as we were so crowded for space.  I have a small apartment and it is hard with all I did gave.  I had to sell most of the good things in order to live.  Sandy seems happy and only wrote me once.  In fact they all owe me letters.  Sandy said she took the smallest room but they are renting a big 2 story house and Garry complains because he wants to build a big house and borrow money.  He has to be crazy to think I would ever give him money.  He won't even let me see the girls.  I miss them so much.  I hope to sew me some clothes soon.  I haven't done anything since we moved here and Betsy has my machine so I have to use my Aunt Ida's old one.  I am invited to my cousin's wedding a week from Friday in a Catholic church.  It is going to be huge.  Then a friend's daughter is getting married on the 20th in Findlay and I am invited.  I only hope the weather is improved so I can go.  My car has no air conditioning.  I sold the Gremlin and Dad bought me a 1973 Ford Galaxy and it is a gas hog with no air.  However, it only had 28,000 miles.  The owner hardly ever used it.  So how is all the family and the weather in the summer.  I bet you are out at the pool all the time.  It sounds good.  I bet the boys are really growing.  Are the girls a big help to you?  Sandy loves to hear from Ginny so have her write Sandy in VA.  I can sell Shakelee products now and use them.  I drink the protein drink for short distances with the cane.  It feels good.  It is hard to be so dependent on my parents when it should be reversed roles.  Dad runs errands a lot and mom does a lot of my laundry since the machines cost $1 per load and are in the basement.  Please excuse this typing as it is all left handed and electric and I never learned how to type in a class.  Mom has an upset stomach and I am worried.  My ulcers feel okay but I take a lot of medicine for it plus iron.  I had six units of blood as my hemoglobin was only 6.0.  It is no wonder I passed out and was so weak.  Well, I must close and get to bed.  Hopefully as it is 12:30 and a friend calls me at 6:30 every morning so I get up and start the day.  She has been so good to me and helped so much.  I only wish the Mormon sisters helped here.  I finally got the Sacrament last Sunday for the first time since the fall came.  It is not like CA.  I live in Chicago and were really spread out but a very active church.  Oh well, I keep saying to myself -- It is not the people that make the church true.  However, I wish they were more helpful since my parents judge them but they only help when absolutely necessary.  Sandy went to school with the Bishop's daughter.  She was nice.  Sandy was active and attended the meetings.  The Bishop wants me out to meetings but I guess he doesn't understand that I am not supposed to go out at all.  I have to stay in and that is why I had 2 bleeding ulcers.  Well, I must close.  Say hello to everyone for me.  Thanks again for getting me the bread.  I sure appreciate it and enjoy it.  It doesn't taste salty at all like the breads do here.  Take care of yourself and your family.  Remember me to all.  Tell them to write.  I am lonely and scared of this MAYO trip and what they will find and the prognosis.  Pray and Pray some more.  I sure miss you.

All my love,
Judy

Sunday, May 31, 1981

Small gift

Dear Betsy,

This one dollar is for you to get something for yourself since I can't be there to get you something.  I don't have any money or I would send you more.  Maybe it would buy an ice cream cone?  Remember that I love you very much.  I can hardly wait to see you.  I am so lonely by myself.  Time goes so slowly.  I hope you are well.  Take care of yourself.  I love you.

All my love,
Mom, yours forever

I miss you while you are ill and can't wait to see you feeling like yourself.  Again, completely well and happy.

Saturday, May 30, 1981

Sometime late in May 1981

Dear Betsy, Sandy and Kirstie,

It was good to talk with you but sorry that you were gone, Betsy.  I haven't gotten any letters from you in a long time.  I am lonely.  I have to go to the MAYO clinic this Tuesday to see the best doctors in our country.  The sad part is I don't have the money to get there.  I have my own new custom made wheel chair.  It is navy blue and nice and narrow.  It has big wheels and much nicer than the one I borrowed before.  It is hot here at 12 midnight it is 73 degrees.  I go to physical therapy every day for my hand and also exercise my legs on a big mat.  I made a chocolate cake for my parents and a applesauce jello salad today for them.  It was good.  They won't come and eat here until the entire apartment is cleaned.  That will take me a long time.  I have really rearranged a lot of drawers since Sandy is living there.  I would love to sew but need a good machine.  I had 2 dresses cut out for several years.  My bank account is down to nothing right now and there is no more coming in.  I can't afford to eat much these days.  I have to eat salt free food and that costs more money.  I enjoy reading a lot and don't watch TV very much since Sandy is gone.  I have the radio on a lot.  It is FM music.  It sounds like you had a nice birthday, Sandy.  I wish I could have been with you.  I miss you a lot and want to see all of you as soon as possible.  When do you think you can come?  I now get up early because it is so hot here during the heat of the day.  Is it hot there also?  I think I will make some oatmeal for breakfast tomorrow.  I really like wheat also and put fruit with bananas, prunes, peaches and pears on it.  Plus I eat toast with jam and honey.  For lunch I usually eat cottage cheese and more fruit and a cooked vegetable.  Then for supper I eat a big salad with everything in it plus an egg and salt free cheese.  It is good that way.  I drink lots of milk and coffee.  The coffee doesn't make me nervous like it used to.  I go out with friends and we drink it.  It isn't the best thing for ulcers.  It tastes good though.  I have a magazine for you, Sandy.  I hope I remember to send it to you.  How do you all like Virginia and living so close to Washington DC?  Have you seen a lot of things?  It has Toledo beat that is for certain.  My hair is getting long and thick.  I think I will let it grow and pull it back.  I have trouble brushing it as it is hard to do with only one hand and that is the left one.  I hope you can read my typing as I was never very good at it and I can't write at all so anyone can read it.  How is my dear Gretchen?  Has she grown at all?  I hope she isn't fat.  Well, I must close and get ready for bed.  I hope this card finds you all well and happy.  Take care of yourselves and please write me soon.  I will send cards from MAYO if I go but I have to find the money first.  I am certain the doctors there could help.  It is a long way to go.  It costs $130 one way to fly.  Plus the motels are expensive plus all the food.  I wish one of you could go with me.  I am scared really.  I hope all goes well.  Be sure to write me and take care of yourselves.  Come and visit me as soon as you are all allowed.  I really miss you and love you all very much.  I hope school is OK.  How is Rainbows doing?  Write back soon and remember that I love you all very much.  Be good and we can see each other soon.  Maybe I will be able by then.  I have two canes and crutches.  Write me.  I love you dearly.

All my love,
Mom

So many times ... just the thought of you has changed the color of my day.

Thursday, May 21, 1981

May 21, 1981

Dear Betsy,

I received a letter from your dad today with both Kirstie and your pictures in it.  They are excellent and I am so proud of you.  You have really worked hard for service points.  This is a different typewriter and works hard for me.  So how do you like having Sandy around?  I miss her a lot and you also.  I hope she can pass school and get into Rainbows.  My hand has not improved and it is frustrating.  My feet and legs are really red.  Today I used the cane most of the time.  The doctor may send me to MAYO the first week in June.  It is so far away and the disease is so rare.  I hope you can get Sandy to stick with her diet and exercise program.  Are you sewing?  I wish I could.  I am still packing Sandy's things into boxes.  I haven't even looked in the basement yet.  I will send them UPS with Ronnie probably this weekend.  I hope your asthma is better and you are doing okay in school.  I am sending a little section from the paper.  You will have to trim it as I can't.  Today Grandma and Grandpa have been married 43 years.  It is hot here now which doesn't help my legs.  They like it cool.  I have to take iron pills and stomach pills for the ulcer.  I lost a lot of blood.  It is getting late at night and I have to get up early for physical therapy at the hospital.  I will be enclosing some coupons for all of you to use.  It helps the grocery bill.  Dad gets my groceries for me. 

I just woke up and it is 3 AM and my feet are in a pan of cold water.  I am going to start going to bed early and getting up early.  It is hot here.  So, is Sandy happy?  Are you glad she came?  When are you coming to see me?  I will try and send some grocery coupons in this letter.  This typewriter is terrible.

This is a different typewriter and very old but it is easier to use.  It much be 60 years old or more.  At least it does type for me.  I can hardly write.  I have lots of boxes packed for Sandy and they are in the middle of my living room waiting for Uncle Ron to come and tape and take to UPS.  I hope he comes soon.  I still have her hampster things to gether and send.  Plus my mom has her clean laundry to put in a box.  The apartment is a mess but it really will look better soon.  How are your school grades?  Are you going to summer school?  What will you take?  I wish I could sew me a few clothes.  I need to wash my hair.  It is a problem trying to decide where to do it.  The doctors want to do a small surgery on  my leg to see if there is a certain disease there in the tissue.  I wish they would have done it in the hospital.  I am supposed to go to MAYO clinic on June 4th.  I would have to fly there and see what they say and do.  I would know no one.  Have you been swimming yet this year?  I wish I could swim again.  It sure helps the back.  Well, I must close and pick up some messes and try and make my bed.  Plus I have to make a list for Grandpa to go to the store and get me some food.  Please take care of yourself and write me please, soon.  Remember that I miss you and love you very much.  Come see me soon.

All my love to you,
Your Mom forever,
Mom

Thursday, April 30, 1981

April 30, 1981 Sally

Dear Sally,
Thank you so much for the bread that arrived today.  Sandy was so thrilled with the pillow.  It is beautiful.  How much do I owe you?  I don't know what the postage was.  The Safeway brand bread molded but the others are fine so we will just have to use the Orpwest brand.  I had it tonight for my supper.  It was so good.  

The divorce hearing was Monday and the judge is taking a week to a month to look it over and make his decision.  It is Heavenly Father's care.  I haven't seen the girls since March 11 last year.  Last night I had a severe attack of TIA or minor stroke.  Sandy called my parents but I lost consciousness.  I was fine up until it happened and it lasted several hours.  I came to and refused to go to the hospital but I scared Sandy to death.  She was awake all night and I read scriptures until 3 AM.  I have made arrangements to go to Ann Arbor University of Michigan the Wed the 6th.  I am really concerned and I strongly want to see the girls but Garry won't let me and I am afraid to tell him my debilitation condition as he will think he can get Sandy.  She is slipping way down in school and I don't think she cares.  I have lost the use of my right hand and borrowed this typewriter from a friend and it is electric.  I never took typing so it is all left finger punch.  Please excuse.  I really can spell!!!  I am at the end of my money and really worried.  The church here is unhelpful.  I miss all of you so much.  The Bishop still hasn't sent Sacrament to me and I requested it over 2 months ago.  My Visiting teacher brought in one meal.  The apartment is dirty and I can do nothing by myself.  Sandy is really nasty and lazy and has a constant mess.  I can't inspire her to get moving and she thinks she will pass but I fear she won't.  She doesn't go to school like she is supposed to.  She is afraid that she will have to go to Garry.  At times I think she acts this way so she can go.  I feel so guilty for being an invalid and unable to go anywhere with her.  She lives a lonely life.  I just called Garry to beg him to let me see the girls and I guess he won't.  Betsy has lots of trouble with asthma.  My money will be gone when I pay the rent and I will have to borrow from someone.  I have never been in this position before.  Sally, I love you and I want you to know how much you and your family mean to me.  I wish I had taken your advise  long before and I might not be in this sickness.  Sandy is trying to diet but she blows it but she doesn't have will power (not like me).  I wrote Jodie yesterday.  She sent a card.  Ash her what I said about the church here.  I still have a strong testimony and it is what gets me through each day.  I will enclose a check for $6 and if it was more which I bet it was, please let me know.  You don't know how much I appreciate it.  The bread will help my bowels as I have a terrible time with them being in the wheel chair all the time.  So how are the children?  How is Mike's business doing?  I think of you so much.  Give my love to everyone as I miss them all.  Tell the sisters to write me and give me some encouragement.  I get depressed at times and try so hard not to question why this has all happened to me.  Thank you for the pamphlets.  I am grateful for them.  I am trying to read Jesus the Christ.   I wish I had it on tapes.  So how is Ginny doing?  Sandy misses her and never gets to writing anyone.  She needs motivation.  I am sure my condition is depressing her and she is afraid.  Our weather goes from 80 to 50 during the day.  We had a tornado touch down Tuesday evening and supposed to take shelter.  I had to stay where I was as I couldn't go down the stairs.  I am really at a loss without my legs plus my right hand.  I get so frustrated.  I can't bathe or wash or comb my hair.  I think I will have someone come to the house and cut it really short so I have no care.  It is so thick and getting long.  It is a real handful.  It takes 5 minutes for water to reach the scalp.  You remember how thick it was and I have had it cut short 2 times since I came here.  I have so much hair for everyone.  I must do, things right to go hair and so thick.  Sandy take 2 1/2 grains Synthroid/day and is still tired.  I take a grain.  Do you still take 1 1/2?  My toenail came off last month and I have been on antibiotics 3 times  and it does not heal because they are blocking the blood to my feet and legs.  Now it is affecting by brain supply.  I hope that Ann Arbor can and will help me.  I feel that the answer is bilateral above the knee amputation so I can live again.  Well, I will close and get ready for bed.  I sleep a lot lately but have trouble getting to bed and asleep.  I take a lot of calcium and magnesium and drink milk.  I want to thank you again for the trouble of getting my bread here.  I'll let you know when I need it again.  Take care of yourself and write soon.  Love you always.

Your friend forever,
Judy

Sunday, April 19, 1981

April 19, 1981

Dear Betsy,

I want to thank you so much for the beautiful Easter Card.  I really enjoy it and your thoughtfulness.  Sandy went to church and I had to stay home.  It got cold here and rained on and off all day.  Lately, I sleep late and stay up late.  Sandy slept all day yesterday for a total of 14 hours.  I read Chesapeake and we are watching "The Ten Commandments" now.  Sandy is off school this week.  She helped serve a breakfast for church today.  Grandma and Grandpa called from Dallas tonight.  Grandpa is wheezing.  Aunt Ida has Mimi and she is getting old.  She wets all the time and can't here.  Poor thing.  She is 13 years old, I think.  Aunt Ida went to church with Charlotte and Lori  and all the family.  Then they went out to eat and to the cemetery and then over to our cousin Tom's home who has a wife and two children.  Carol and Gary are my cousins also (Charlotte's sons) and I used to babysit for Carol when she was very little.  I was disappointed that she didn't come to see me.  Lori will be married on June 12th.  She is having a big wedding and lots of showers.  I can't go but wish I could.  She is your 3rd cousin and Aunt Ida's great great niece like you are to, her.  She turned Catholic.  I hope that you are well and doing all right.  I want you to know that you can come here anytime you want to visit or live.  I love you dearly and am so sorry that this mess has to happen in our lives.  I wrote Kirstie last night.  Sandy babysat for 4 hours.  My parents got me a pretty pink printed robe for Easter.  They gave me the package before they left and said not to open it before Easter.  She said she was sorry she forgot to send you both cards but forgot being in Dallas.  They will come back by way of the Smokey Mountains.  It should be pretty there for them now.  I miss California and my friends.  I think the drier climate was better.  I have to stay here no though.  I wish we could see each other.  We really are close in distance.  I sure miss you.  Where do you go to church?  Did Kirstie get balloted on yet for Rainbows?  I really appreciate all your letters.  They mean so much.  I look forward to the mail each day.  I miss not drinking my coffee.  I may be able to drink some soon.  It makes me get red and hurt easily.  Well, I guess that I will close for now.  Take care of yourself and write me really soon.  I hope you have a nice vacation.  Remember that I love you very much and miss you.  Sandy and I play lots of Canasta.  I love you with all my heart.

Love from your mom,
Mom

Tuesday, April 14, 1981

April 14, 1981 Sally

Dear Sally,

Sorry I haven't written but I have had a bad attitude most of the time.  I have been in this apartment since I left the hospital Jan 10 and now they want to admit me again.  The reason I am typing this is because I have palsy in my right hand like I had in my left hand last year.  I borrowed this typewriter from a friend and it is electric and I never took typing so excuse the mistakes.  We have not been well and I just finished with intestinal flu and fever.  Sandy and I both had bad colds.  She is on antibiotics and missed a lot of school.  Her grades are terrible and she doesn't care.  She really sasses me a lot and I can no longer exercise, etc.  I am in the wheel chair all the time.  It is really depressing.  My toe nail is gone on the other toe now and infected and won't heal.  I was on antibiotics for a month and it didn't help because no blood supply to the feet.  I pray for a miracle.  I want to come back to CA and go to the big clinic.  I have to wait for the divorce hearing April 27.  I never hear from Garry.  Betsy writes a lot.  I really miss her.  She was so thrilled because you called her on her birthday.  That was so nice of you.  Kirstie never writes me and I didn't even get a birthday card or present from her.  I am on welfare and food stamps.  I can't afford this apartment.  I need money desperately to start May with.  Garry sends me nothing.  I signed up to sell Shaklee but it is hard to do from the apartment.  I really don't have many friends.  My parents are a help with errands.  Laundry costs a dollar per load and it adds up.  They left for Dallas Monday for a couple of weeks.  I decided not to enter the hospital then because they were going to stay home.  They need a break and wanted to see my brother.  I would like to have my legs amputated above the knee so I had no more pain and could get rehabilitated and wear artificial legs.  I see so many advantages to it but the doctors say it is too drastic to do.  But they don't live with this and have all the problems and medications that upset my stomach.  I have to keep the apartment cool and cold.  It is to freeze tonight and was 80 a few days ago.  I think the palsy and this are related.  I am vegetating away.  I can't eat because all I do is sit.  I try to read but end up watching TV.  I stay up late at night and get up early.  I supposed to get Social Security and Disability.  I have all the papers to fill out.  I am disappointed in the church here.  They don't come around and I can't ask for help because they live so far apart.  The Bishop never contacts me and he said he would.  I can't go to church but I don't think he believes me.  I would like to regain my temple recommend but he says I have to go to the meetings or else get a written excuse from a doctor.  That made me mad because it is so different in CA.  My mother says their would be no one to help me if I returned to CA.  I said my friends and church would help.  My own relatives don't even help and when they do they complain for days.  I would love to live in UT and be active in church.  I love the Salt Lake area.  It has so many memories.  I know we get there or CA somehow.  I still have my faith.  I read my scriptures everyday and it comforting.  I would love the tapes for Jesus the Christ.  I watched the movie Peter and Paul on TV tonight.  It was good.  I would like the Church News but at this time I can't afford it.  I really need a blessing.  Please write me Dale Christenson's address.  I miss you and Mike so much.  I miss you both so much and Marie.  She calls me and I really love that.  Can you think of a way for me to get to CA and where could I live?  I thought that if the divorce ends and I could buy a trailer there for Sandy and me we could manage.  How much are they?  Is there low income housing there and apartment for the handicapped?  I hate being so inactive.  I have to take laxatives and eat harsh foods and they hurt my stomach because of all the pills I take.  They children sound so grown up.  I am glad you spend your time with them.  It shows and you are a fine example of a mother.  I really you all and regret that I never was active like I should have been.  Could you do me a favor and send me some bread?  I like Orowheat's Honey Wheat Berry bread and it helped my bowels.  It is dark and coarse.  Albertsons and Safeway both carry it.  It is expensive but I will pay you and send it as fast as possible.  They also make their bread Orowheat Branola bread.  Safeway's honey wheat bread will do if they don't have the other.  I am not supposed to have the preservatives or much salt.  Please try and send UPS.  Get up to four loaves.  I would appreciate it and so would my bowels.  This typewriter is sticking and has made a mess of this letter.  Give my love to all and say hello for me.  I think of you so much and wish I could call you.  I know you are my listened to you years ago and left Garry then.  All this would be over.  Hind sight!  I gave him a fair chance.  He says I pinned Betsy to the floor and put a knife to her throat.  This is all in the divorce papers.  I am still trying to read "Chesapeake" by Mischenor.  I am over the 600 pages but it has 500 more to go.  Take care and please write me soon and try to send the bread.  I will pay you.  Give the children a hug and kiss from me and Sandy.  I love you.  Have a good Easter.

Love,
Judy

April 30, 1981 Sally

Dear Sally,

Sorry I haven't written but I have had a bad attitude most of the time.  I have been in this apartment since I left the hospital Jan. 10th and now they want to admit me again.  The reason I am typing this is because I have a palsy in my right hand like I had in the left hand last year.  I borrowed this typewriter from a friend and it is electric and I never took typing so excuse the mistakes.  We have not been well and I just finished with intestinal flu and fever.  Sandy and I both had bad colds.  She is on antibiotics and missed a lot of school.  Her grades are terrible and she doesn't care.  She really sasses me a lot and I can no longer exercise, etc.  I am in the wheel chair all the time.  It is really depressing.  My toe nail is gone on the other toe now and infected and won't heal.  I was on antibiotics for a month and it didn't help because no blood supply to the feet.  I pray for a miracle.  I want to come back to CA and go to the big Clinic.  I have to wait for the divorce hearing on April 27.  I never hear from Garry.  Betsy writes a lot.  I really miss her.  She was so thrilled because you called her on her birthday.  That was so nice of you.  Kirstie never writes me and I didn't even get a birthday card or present from her.  I am on Welfare and food stamps.  I can't afford this apartment.  I need money despareately to start May with.  Garry sends me nothing.  I signed up to sell Shaklee but it is hard to do from the apartment.  I really don't have many friends.  My parents are a help with errands.  Laundry costs a dollar per load and it adds up.  They left for Dallas Monday for a couple of weeks.  I decided not to enter the hospital then because they were going to stay home.  They need a break and wanted to see my brother.  I would like to, have my legs amputated and wear artifical legs.  I see so many advantages to it but the doctors say it is too drastic to do.  But they don't live with this and have all the problems and medications that upset my stomach.  I have to keep the apartment cool to cold.  It is to freeze tonight and was 80 a few days ago.  I think the palsy and this are related.  I am vegetating away.  I can't eat because all I do is sit.  I try to read but end up watching TV.  I stay up late at night and get up early.  I am supposed to get Social Security and disability.  I have all the papers to fill out.  I am dissappointed in the church here.  They don't come around and I can't ask for help because they live so far apart.  The Bishop never contacts me and he said he would.  I  can't go to church but I don't think he believes me.  I would like to regain my temple recommend but he says I have to go to the meetings or else get a written excuse from a doctor.  That made me mad because it is so different in CA.  My mother says their would be no one to help me if I returned to CA.  I said my friends and church would.  My own relatives don't even help and when they do they complain for days I would love to live in Utah and be active in church.  I love the Salt Lake City area.  It has so many memories.  I know we get there or CA somehow.  I still have my faith.  I read my scriptures every day and it is comforting.  I would love the tapes for Jesus the Christ.  I watched the movie Peter and Paul on TV tonight.  It was good.  I would like the Church News but at this time I can't afford it.  I really need a blessing.  Please write me Dale Christenson's address.  I miss you and Mike so much and Marie.  She calls me and I really love that.  Can you think of a way for me to get to CA and where could I live.  I thought that if the divorce ends and I could buy a trailer there for Sandy and me we could manage.  How much are they?  Is there low  income housing there and apartments for the handicap?  I hate being so inactive.  I have to take a laxatives and eat harsh foods and they hurt my stomach because of all the pills I take.  The children sound so grown up.  I am glad you spend your time with them.  It shows and you are a fine example of a mother.  I realy you all and regret that I never was active like I should have been.  Could you do me a favor and send me some bread .  I like Orowheat's Honey Wheat berry bread

Friday, April 10, 1981

April 10, 1981

Dear Betsy,

I was so happy to get your letter.  Please excuse this typing as I cannot write with my right hand.  I have a radial arm palsy and it is useless and unable to use it like when I broke my hand.  The doctors want to admit me to the hospital and my parents are going to Dallas to see Uncle Dick and family.  They are leaving tomorrow.  I am so proud of you and your Rainbows.  So you are going out for the office of Faith.  That is great!  I hope you get it.  You would do a good job.  I am glad that Kirstie is going to join.  The teachings are beautiful.  Were do you go to church?  What are you going to do over spring vacation?  I am glad that you babysit a lot.  I always babysat when I could and saved my money. How is my Gretchen?  I sure do miss her.  Does she miss me?  I am so glad that you liked your presents.  This is an electric typewriter and I never used one before or with my left hand.  Excuse the mistakes.  Sandy and I have bad colds.  Mine is in the throat and hers is a cough.  We have been playing canasta and Probe and sorry.  It is fun.  I am still reading Chesapeake and it is all historical and I like that.  I would some other books like Masada.  Did you see it on TV this week?  I take antibiotics all the time as I have an infected toe where the nail came off.  It will not heal.  Aunt Ida is better and bought me some medicine for my throat yesterday.  She looks good.  She does not come much.  I made whole wheat muffins the other day and put banana in them.  They are delicious.  I eat one every morning with cereal and banana.  I don't drink coffee anymore and sure do miss it.  I spend every day in a wheel chair with the legs elevated.  It is depressing and I sure miss you.  Do you get to watch "Nurse" on TV?  It is really good.  I like the "Dukes of Hazard" and "Dallas" also.  Our weather is cooler today and supposed to go to 32 degrees tonight.  It was 80 the other day.  That is hard on me when it changes so much.  I am afraid that they will have to cut my legs off.  I pray to God for a miracle every day.  I hope you are better by now.  There are so many colds going around here.  Easter is almost here.  I can't even go to church.  Sandy goes to church every week and youth group.  She has a few friends.  She doesn't want to join Rainbows.  My apartment is so drafty and hurt my feet.  It is electric heat and costs a fortune.  I sure wish we could see you soon.  I owe so many letters and can't write with my right hand.  I can't play the violin either.  I just talked to Grandma and they are both sick with colds too.  She can't remember whether she wrote you back or not.  I think she did.  Well, I am going to close this for now.  Please write back soon.  Remember that I love you and miss you so much.  Take good care of yourself for me.  God bless you.  Please say prayers for me.  I pray for you every day.  I love you.  Give my love to Kirstie.

With all my love my daughter,
Love
Mom

Friday, March 27, 1981

March 27, 1981

Dear Betsy,

Please excuse my typing but Sandy borrowed this electric typewriter from a friend and I have never used one so excuse the mistakes.  I was happy to get your letter and am glad that you liked your presents and had a nice birthday.  I really miss you and wish I could see you soon.  That was nice of the Mowers to call you.  You can buy and make covers for your purse.  They are very popular here.  So your  hair is really growing.  Mine is starting to grow also.  It is hard to take care of as I have to wash it in the sink in the wheel chair with my head up and leaning backwards.  My hair is thick again.  I couldn't go to Mark's Installation as I have to stay in the same place all the time.  I have not left the apartment since I cam home from the hospital on January 10.  It is supposed to get to 70 degrees tomorrow.  I get no exercise and I hate it.  I am grateful for the teachings of the Bible or I would never get through the day.  I read the scriptures all the time.  I am also reading "Chesapeake".  I read 100 pages and quit and read them again and quit and now I am on page 460 and I really love the book.  I love to read history and it is. (?)  I try to read a lot.  I knit some too.

Do you have spring vacation soon?  I wish you could come here and stay with me for it.  I am so glad that you like Rainbows.  I am proud of you for being one.  You have done very well with the teachings.  I hope that you will be an Eastern Star.

Do you watch "Dallas"?  I like the "Dukes of Hazard."  Your scented stationary is really nice.  Judy Dibble sent me some for my birthday.  It is rose scented.  She works all the time and has little time to write.  I miss all my friends in California.  The medicines I have to take for my legs and feet really hurt my stomach.  Plus, I got an infection in my big toe and lost three fourths of the nail and am on antibiotics again.  I drink lots of milk and have to be on salt free foods.  They are expensive.  Sandy has a lot of homework and has to study hard.  She has some nice friends.

So how is school there?  I am proud of your grades.  Do you  babysit much?  Can you save any money?  Sandy loves to babysit but does not do it too much.  She loves to apply make up and fix her hair all the time.  She wants to learn to cook.  We made oatmeal muffins last night and I love them.

Grandma and Grandpa are fine.  They keep busy.  Aunt Ida has a bladder infection.  Charlotte came over the last week for the first time since we moved here.  Lori is getting married in June.  Well, I must close and find stamps.  I love you dearly.  Write back soon.  I miss you.  All my love.

Love ya!!!!
Your mom forever
Write soon.

Wednesday, March 11, 1981

March 11, 1981

Dearest Betsy,

I sure do miss you and long to see you.  I wish you would write me.  It is one year tomorrow since I saw you.  I wish you could come here for Easter vacation.  I have no money or I send you your plane fare.  My apartment is cold and my feet hurt.  Every morning they are on fire.  I fixed a nice dinner tonight and made a jello salad.  I wanted to send you some banana nut bread but it would weigh too much.  Did you get your presents from me.  I sure hope so.

Grandpa had surgery a week ago.  He came home yesterday.  I couldn't see him.  He ran a fever and was put on antibiotics.  Then he passed out.  They found a spot under his diaphram. It is a lipoma which they will leave alone.  He is OK now.  I haven't seen him for quite a while.  Sandy has a lot of homework every night.  I hope you have a really super birthday.  Please think of me.  I'll always remember having you.  You were so special being my first baby.  Gad saved you and I pray He is still guarding and guiding you.  I love you, Betsy, honey.  Keep up the good life and remember my love for you always.  I sleep with your cat and I love it so much.  I wish I could have gotten you more for your birthday but loving you and being your mom is my best present.  I could cry all day if I let the tears come.  I hold them in.  Please send me a picture of you.  You are so pretty.  I am so happy you are my daughter.  I love you, honey.

All my love,
You mom forever

I miss you so much

Happy Birthday!!  15 years old.

When can you drive in Virginia?

Please write me.