Dear Sally,
Well I spent 12 days with my parents and am now with Bob. I am still very weak. We are working things out. I have a fever tonight. Sandy is still in the hospital. She'll probably end up in a foster home. I can't take her and she hates Garry.
Thank you for your letter. I weight 117#. I weighed 105# in the hospital. Bob is helping me. I have lost my past memory.
I am so depressed today. I cried and cried all day. I guess I am letting down. I really bled in the hospital also and had lots of blood. Thank God I am alive. I have a lot to be thankful for. I really do love Bob. I have missed him. He loves me.
Well, I have heard nothing from Betsy or Kirstie. It is really upsetting. Well, I get new glasses. I have no Christmas presents, tree or decorations. Glad you are ready for Christmas. I miss you all. Sorry this has taken so long. Please tell Jodi, Marie and Noreen what happened to me. I have to do something with my life and feel that I can do. Any suggestions. Merry Christmas to all. I miss you.
Love,
Judy
Thursday, December 16, 1982
Tuesday, December 7, 1982
December 7, 1982 Sally
Dear Sally,
Please excuse my scribbling. Sorry I haven't written but I was critically ill in Toledo Hospital for one month. I don't remember a lot. I was in intensive care 19 days. I had a temp of 84 and a pulse of 30 and in a coma when Bob finally got me to the hospital. I had hypothermia and they gave me no chance to live. My parents have really been devoted. Five days after I got here I turned even worse. I aspirated and got bad pneumonia. Then they had to put a tube in me to breathe and put me on a respirator. Oh, Sally, when I came to I was sure I was dying. I remember my mom 1st then my dad. I do remember them. In the meantime I saw Sandy and couldn't remember that she came from VA in October with me. I was sure I was dying. Only I really was struggling with life. My mom said they gave no hope. The pneumonia was resistive to the antibiotics and finally they found one and I broke out in severe rash. She said I was a mess. I don't remember. Then I had bad diarrhea and had stomach tube, rectal tube, breathing tube, Foley urine catheter. I had 3 IV's swag catheter into the heart, arterial blood lines and subclavian catheter. I have lost a lot of weight and am now gaining fast. I guess I had a really bad cough before I came in and fell, etc. only Bob let me go. I was in a coma when he finally called an ambulance. I blame him. He has used me as a nurse maid, my money, transportation, etc. He has used me. Sandy is in St. Vincents hospital and has been 4 weeks. Bob put her in when I was in the hospital. She took extra thyroid plus her anorexia is bad.
Please excuse my scribbling. Sorry I haven't written but I was critically ill in Toledo Hospital for one month. I don't remember a lot. I was in intensive care 19 days. I had a temp of 84 and a pulse of 30 and in a coma when Bob finally got me to the hospital. I had hypothermia and they gave me no chance to live. My parents have really been devoted. Five days after I got here I turned even worse. I aspirated and got bad pneumonia. Then they had to put a tube in me to breathe and put me on a respirator. Oh, Sally, when I came to I was sure I was dying. I remember my mom 1st then my dad. I do remember them. In the meantime I saw Sandy and couldn't remember that she came from VA in October with me. I was sure I was dying. Only I really was struggling with life. My mom said they gave no hope. The pneumonia was resistive to the antibiotics and finally they found one and I broke out in severe rash. She said I was a mess. I don't remember. Then I had bad diarrhea and had stomach tube, rectal tube, breathing tube, Foley urine catheter. I had 3 IV's swag catheter into the heart, arterial blood lines and subclavian catheter. I have lost a lot of weight and am now gaining fast. I guess I had a really bad cough before I came in and fell, etc. only Bob let me go. I was in a coma when he finally called an ambulance. I blame him. He has used me as a nurse maid, my money, transportation, etc. He has used me. Sandy is in St. Vincents hospital and has been 4 weeks. Bob put her in when I was in the hospital. She took extra thyroid plus her anorexia is bad.
Thursday, December 2, 1982
Missing You
Missing You
Sometimes when I'm
alone and missing you,
I remember the special times we've
shared.
Sometimes the memories make me smile,
sometimes they make me cry.
Sometimes they make me lonely,
but that's not so bad…
because remembering what we've already
done makes me look forward
to the things we've yet to do.
It makes it easier to wait for you
because you don't seem so far away.
But more than anything else,
it makes me realize just how much
I love you.
- Julie Ann Gridley
Sometimes when I'm
alone and missing you,
I remember the special times we've
shared.
Sometimes the memories make me smile,
sometimes they make me cry.
Sometimes they make me lonely,
but that's not so bad…
because remembering what we've already
done makes me look forward
to the things we've yet to do.
It makes it easier to wait for you
because you don't seem so far away.
But more than anything else,
it makes me realize just how much
I love you.
- Julie Ann Gridley
Monday, September 27, 1982
September 27, 1982
Dear Sally,
I am here in Virginia to see the girls. I just saw Sandy's psychologist with Garry. She is returning to Toledo with me at the advice of the doctor. Garry took it very well. You are the first to know. I called Bob but no answer. She wants to live with me so much. It will really be crowded in our 2 bedroom 1 bath apartment but Bob and I will try to make a good home for her. Bob is going to hear the missionary lessons. Pray that he believes.
I have been in this motel 6 days. My parents were here 3 days with my Great Aunt Ida. Betsy became Worthy Advisor of Rainbow Girls and I installed her. I flew here and will fly back tomorrow with Sandy. I will seek permanent custody of her. She has a lot of faith - so do I.
The girls just came to visit. Betsy says to have Ginny write. Sandy is in the process of writing Ginny. Please write her at my address.
Our weather is 70. It is pretty good for my feet and legs. My poor stomach hurts a lot lately. So much has happened. I love to Book you gave me. Sandy goes to Seminary every morning here but only once a week in Toledo. We leave at 9 AM out of Washington, DC tomorrow. I hope and pray Sandy will be happy with Bob and me.
How have you been? I miss you so much. I made my best friends. Please write me encouragement with the church.
I can hardly believe the children have grown so much. Mine have too.
Well, I am excited about getting Sandy home to me. I hope she can get the love she needs from me and Bob. My stomach really hurts. Garry will take us to the airport. Poor Sandy. She has really suffered. I pray she'll be happy and well. She looks so good.
Well, I will write again soon. Please write me. I need encouragement and strength more than ever.
Remember I miss you and all my friends. Say "hi" to them for me. I love you, friend.
Love
Judy
I am here in Virginia to see the girls. I just saw Sandy's psychologist with Garry. She is returning to Toledo with me at the advice of the doctor. Garry took it very well. You are the first to know. I called Bob but no answer. She wants to live with me so much. It will really be crowded in our 2 bedroom 1 bath apartment but Bob and I will try to make a good home for her. Bob is going to hear the missionary lessons. Pray that he believes.
I have been in this motel 6 days. My parents were here 3 days with my Great Aunt Ida. Betsy became Worthy Advisor of Rainbow Girls and I installed her. I flew here and will fly back tomorrow with Sandy. I will seek permanent custody of her. She has a lot of faith - so do I.
The girls just came to visit. Betsy says to have Ginny write. Sandy is in the process of writing Ginny. Please write her at my address.
Our weather is 70. It is pretty good for my feet and legs. My poor stomach hurts a lot lately. So much has happened. I love to Book you gave me. Sandy goes to Seminary every morning here but only once a week in Toledo. We leave at 9 AM out of Washington, DC tomorrow. I hope and pray Sandy will be happy with Bob and me.
How have you been? I miss you so much. I made my best friends. Please write me encouragement with the church.
I can hardly believe the children have grown so much. Mine have too.
Well, I am excited about getting Sandy home to me. I hope she can get the love she needs from me and Bob. My stomach really hurts. Garry will take us to the airport. Poor Sandy. She has really suffered. I pray she'll be happy and well. She looks so good.
Well, I will write again soon. Please write me. I need encouragement and strength more than ever.
Remember I miss you and all my friends. Say "hi" to them for me. I love you, friend.
Love
Judy
Tuesday, July 6, 1982
July 6, 1982 Sally
Dear Sally,
It was good to get your letter. Our weather is hot and humid. Not like CA. I really miss all of you, etc. Bob and I are happy. We have so many errands to run but my legs can't take all the heat and time on them, plus we are still trying to move into my apartment.
My great Aunt Ida was 80 this month. We went out to dinner and there was a surprise party for her at my mom's. She had fun. Doesn't act her age.
I've talked with the girls. I plan to go in Sept when Betsy is installed as Worthy Advisor. I am anxious for Bob to meet Betsy and Kirstie. He really cares about my daughters. We both miss Sandy. I am sure she will return some day. Her dad works those girls every morning for 4 hours on the house.
The girls all go to church and mutual. Betsy's steady boyfriend is good LDS and he just graduated from high school. He friend (also LDS) likes Sandy. His name is Matt.
Sandy weighs about 110-113# and I think it is too much. I weight 120# and know I need no more.
Bob and I are both going in September to VA. We may fly. I plan to sell my 2 rings as I have no use for them. They will pay my airplane ride.
Did I tell you that I am letting my hair grow for Bob. But I plan to get it thinned soon. We have been married over 2 months now.
I love the book you sent me. It is too hot to send bread or muffins now. I have a huge store list. I push the wheelchair and Bob pushes the cart. Like a choo choo train. We have fun.
Write soon.
Love,
Judy
It was good to get your letter. Our weather is hot and humid. Not like CA. I really miss all of you, etc. Bob and I are happy. We have so many errands to run but my legs can't take all the heat and time on them, plus we are still trying to move into my apartment.
My great Aunt Ida was 80 this month. We went out to dinner and there was a surprise party for her at my mom's. She had fun. Doesn't act her age.
I've talked with the girls. I plan to go in Sept when Betsy is installed as Worthy Advisor. I am anxious for Bob to meet Betsy and Kirstie. He really cares about my daughters. We both miss Sandy. I am sure she will return some day. Her dad works those girls every morning for 4 hours on the house.
The girls all go to church and mutual. Betsy's steady boyfriend is good LDS and he just graduated from high school. He friend (also LDS) likes Sandy. His name is Matt.
Sandy weighs about 110-113# and I think it is too much. I weight 120# and know I need no more.
Bob and I are both going in September to VA. We may fly. I plan to sell my 2 rings as I have no use for them. They will pay my airplane ride.
Did I tell you that I am letting my hair grow for Bob. But I plan to get it thinned soon. We have been married over 2 months now.
I love the book you sent me. It is too hot to send bread or muffins now. I have a huge store list. I push the wheelchair and Bob pushes the cart. Like a choo choo train. We have fun.
Write soon.
Love,
Judy
Friday, May 21, 1982
May 21, 1982
My Dear Kirstie,
I am sorry I didn't get this written sooner. Time moves much quicker. By this time Sandy should be there. I miss her so much already. I hope she stays well and is happy. Because I love her so much is the reason she is with you, Betsy and her dad. As I told you on the phone, I am married. We were married May 4th in a Lutheran Church. Only Sandy and Bob's best friend and his wife were with us. It was a lovely service. Our pictures are good. As soon as I get the negatives I'll get some pictures made for all of you. Bob has his left leg off and so he uses a wheel chair. He will walk soon. He will be 50 in July. He is very kind to me. He was married before for 6 years and divorced. We both have gold wedding bands. I had pretty flowers.
We will be coming in September to see you, Betsy and Sandy. I am anxious to see you. I really miss you. I hope you have fun with Sandy. Help her get well. She has had a hard life. I hope you are happy. I am so sorry I had to get so sick a few years ago. I am still your mom. I miss you and really love you. I have seen you once since March 1980.
My fee and legs are still a mess but I am learning to live with it more. My hand is all better which is a miracle.
I go to church every Sunday. Bob goes with me. He has never gone to church since he was in high school, but he has faith.
I have to go to the store today and get groceries. I hate all the Friday shoppers. I have let the shelves get empty.
Bob has to move everything from his apartment into mine and we have too much to fit so we have to get rid of some more furniture. I wish you could come for a visit this summer. today it is raining and cool. It is good weather for my legs. We have to get a room air conditioner because there is non with the apartment. Everything costs money. They wnat $500 for air conditioner.
I haven't been to the mall except to get our wedding bands. I wnet to the cemetary on Mother's day. Bob's parents are buried with our relatives also. Grandma and Grandpa put flowers on the grave.
How is my Gretchen? I miss her too, but I can't have pets here. I owe 15 letters which is really unusual for me. I got behind with getting married again. I am happy so that is what counts. I only wish I could see you. I bet you are really changing. Do you have a boy friend? How is school for you? I hope you like school. Do you have much homework.
I tripped and broke my left big toe and cut the bottom off 3 weeks ago. It still hurts but it is healing. It takes me longer to heal because of the blood circulation.
Well, I must close and get his in the mail. Remember I love you, Kirstie and I am your mom. Please write. Take care of yourself.
All my love,
Mom
I am sorry I didn't get this written sooner. Time moves much quicker. By this time Sandy should be there. I miss her so much already. I hope she stays well and is happy. Because I love her so much is the reason she is with you, Betsy and her dad. As I told you on the phone, I am married. We were married May 4th in a Lutheran Church. Only Sandy and Bob's best friend and his wife were with us. It was a lovely service. Our pictures are good. As soon as I get the negatives I'll get some pictures made for all of you. Bob has his left leg off and so he uses a wheel chair. He will walk soon. He will be 50 in July. He is very kind to me. He was married before for 6 years and divorced. We both have gold wedding bands. I had pretty flowers.
We will be coming in September to see you, Betsy and Sandy. I am anxious to see you. I really miss you. I hope you have fun with Sandy. Help her get well. She has had a hard life. I hope you are happy. I am so sorry I had to get so sick a few years ago. I am still your mom. I miss you and really love you. I have seen you once since March 1980.
My fee and legs are still a mess but I am learning to live with it more. My hand is all better which is a miracle.
I go to church every Sunday. Bob goes with me. He has never gone to church since he was in high school, but he has faith.
I have to go to the store today and get groceries. I hate all the Friday shoppers. I have let the shelves get empty.
Bob has to move everything from his apartment into mine and we have too much to fit so we have to get rid of some more furniture. I wish you could come for a visit this summer. today it is raining and cool. It is good weather for my legs. We have to get a room air conditioner because there is non with the apartment. Everything costs money. They wnat $500 for air conditioner.
I haven't been to the mall except to get our wedding bands. I wnet to the cemetary on Mother's day. Bob's parents are buried with our relatives also. Grandma and Grandpa put flowers on the grave.
How is my Gretchen? I miss her too, but I can't have pets here. I owe 15 letters which is really unusual for me. I got behind with getting married again. I am happy so that is what counts. I only wish I could see you. I bet you are really changing. Do you have a boy friend? How is school for you? I hope you like school. Do you have much homework.
I tripped and broke my left big toe and cut the bottom off 3 weeks ago. It still hurts but it is healing. It takes me longer to heal because of the blood circulation.
Well, I must close and get his in the mail. Remember I love you, Kirstie and I am your mom. Please write. Take care of yourself.
All my love,
Mom
Sunday, May 16, 1982
May 16, 1982
My Dearest Betsy,
I have been wanting to write you for the past two weeks but have been so busy. I was so happy to talk to you last Sunday on Mother's Day. Thank you so much for calling me. Before I write more I want to tell you how very much you mean to me and how much I dearly love and adore you. I do miss you but I am glad you are happy and busy. I am so proud of you. I can hardly wait until September. What date have you set? What is your theme and colors? What can I do to help plan. Remember planning in California? I also want you to know I am the happiest woman in the world. I have found happiness at long last and I love the life I live. I still have the "freak feet and legs" that hurt all the time, but there is more to life than pain. I smile all the time and laugh. I weigh 118-120# and feel good all over. I just had to tell you. I think of you so much and I will be there in September for sure.
The weather should be good.
Aunt Ida just had a four day trip to the World's Fair and got home Thursday. She had a good time. Sandy is fine and going to school. She goes weekly to the psychologist.
I go to church every Sunday. Two Sunday's ago I tripped on a 1/4" step raised concrete and tore my left big toe wide open on the bottom. Blood went everywhere and I had to go to the emergency room for treatment. I also broke the toe.
How are you feeling? I hope better. Did the stomach cramps go away? How is the asthma doing? Do you still have a boy friend? Are you driving yet? I go out mornings and evenings when possible because me feet and legs can't take the heat. I shop early or late. I am know as "The Sun Down Kid" It is 85 degrees here. I had to buy a $500 air conditioner this past week.
Monday
I have been thinking of your installation. I would like to present you with your gavel. I have mine and Grandma used it when she was Worth Matron. So I would like you to have mine if you want. I would be honored if you would accept my gavel. This special day of yours will be very special for me also. Please give me all the details and the date for sure. I will need a motel close by for a couple of days. I am so anxious to come and see you. I wish you could come visit me this summer. I am saving my money for the September trip. I hope the weather is really good. It should be ideal. It is a good time for your installation.
Please think about the gavel. I could give you another one also if you didn't want the one I used.
It is hot here but pretty. I even went to the cemetery last Sunday and saw the graves of all our relatives. I miss my Grandpa Deakin. He was a good man. Do you still hear from Ulrich in Germany?
Tomorrow I plan to go to a Bible study at church. I go out and eat my breakfast brunch when I get home. I took Sandy to Dr. Adler today at 9:30. Then I took her to school and then I came home and fixed breakfast. Now I am at my doctors and have to wait so I hope I can finish this and get it mailed.
I am letting my hair grow long again. It is already thick.
Wednesday
I have to send Sandy home to you all because she needs you. I love her so much but I feel she needs more supervision and her sisters. She will probably never forgive me. I pray she does and knows I did it for her own good. She is still very sick and takes lots of medicine. Tell her I love her for me. I have cried all morning today. I miss you so much.
My new phone number is …Address: 6818 Oakfield Drive #101
Judy Dibble sent this stationary 2 years ago and I am writing to you with it for the first time.
Bob was married at age 41 and divorced 2 years ago. He is 6'4" tall. He is losing his hair. He is good to me, Betsy. I need love and I love him. I am happy. I miss you so much. I wish we could be closer. Could you write me more? I miss your letters. I didn't tell anyone I was getting married. We were married in Bob's church on May 4. Bob's friend Steve and his wife and Sandy were there and the Pastor. Steve bought beautiful flowers - corsage for Sandy and his wife and carnations for Steve and Bob. I had a beautiful bouquet of white carnations and a lovely purple orchid. We have gold wedding bands. I hope you are happy for me. I was so lonely. Now, the time flies for us. He is disabled and handicapped also so we are poor and he and I are here together most of the time.
So you are going to the Mormon church. So is Sandy. I am glad. I go every week.
I am so thrilled you want me to present you with your gavel (mine). I'll have it made up with your name, etc. Send me your Assembly # and etc because I'll put it on it also. I am so excited. You are fulfilling my dreams. I have a daughter to be proud of. You light up my life!!!
It just poured rain and now the sun is out. I think we'll take Sandy out for salad bar supper tonight and then pack. I have to yell her yet. She is happy since she was doing things wrong. She needs psychiatric help. Please don't tell her ever that she is fat. She thinks she is. She looks better past two days. She went to mutual last night and had a good time. I hope she doesn't hate her own mother. If I didn't love her, I wouldn't send her. She says she hates her dad and Alison. She said she would run away if I sent her to her dad. I pray all works out. I miss her already. She just came home from school with loads of homework.
Well, I had better close and get cleaned up. Bob is taking a nap. I hope you stay happy and well. I haven't been in the wheel chair for weeks. I rest my legs on footstools or the bed. I have lots of energy and I eat good. You can be proud of me. Remember I love you dearly. Let me help you plan your installation, theme, colors, etc. I love lavender and baby blue. I will mark September 25th as the big, BIG DAY!! We will be there somehow.
Get the address and phone number of that Holiday Inn by your lodge. It would be close.
Remember I am your one and only mom and I love you dearly. I only wish I had my health so I could be with you more. Take care, honey and write me soon.
All my love to a beautiful daughter,
Your mom
Wednesday, March 31, 1982
March 31, 1990 Sally
Dear Sally,
So much is happening which isn't all good (What a way to start a letter)! We have had 2 custody hearings and another April 6. Sandy has to testify then. She went back to school full time and stopped Mellaul. Now she called today 2 x from school to say she didn't feel well and wanted to come home. I didn't let her as she always pulls this. She is trying out for softball and track. I think she is still sick. She refuses to live with Garry and Alison but she misses the girls. I called Kirstie on her birthday. She sounds so sad. Betsy sounds great. I miss them. Sandy is lazy and she yells so much at me. I am very lonely but trying to keep busy with church and all. Garry, Alison and the girls all went to Oakton, VA Ward on Sunday for all meetings. He is making himself look so good. He had his attorney question me for 2 straight hours. He is trying to say I am financially physically and mentally incompetent. He will probably get custody and cost thousands of dollars and I will pay all my life. The psych for Sandy wrote a letter to the court on Garry's behalf saying I should have Sandy until the summer, then live with Garry forever. I was furious. You can tell who pays his bill. We are going to a new psych for adolescent tomorrow for Sandy and I pray he helps her and us. Otherwise I will lose Sandy to Garry. He moved into his big new apartment. Sandy's psych doctor said I could not provide for her. I will get food from food truck (welfare LDS) tomorrow. The Bishop wants me to practice my violin and play in Sacrament meeting. Relief Society lesson is this Saturday at 9:30. I plan to go. Sandy goes to Mutual every Tuesday night and plays volleyball. She has lots of friends. The minister that married me and who was to be a character witness for me died March 23 suddenly. He absolutely despised Garry. I feel the loneliness of divorce now. Not the anger, hurt as much as missing someone to love. Do you still want Sandy part of the summer? Betsy is going to CA also so she says. She goes, goes, goes! Well, I am out of room. I miss not hearing from you. The girls don't write and it hurts. Garry gets all credit after I raised them to young ladies. I hope you are all well and hopefully happy. Thank Heavenly Father for your beautiful family. I love you all so much. Write soon. All my love,
Judy
So much is happening which isn't all good (What a way to start a letter)! We have had 2 custody hearings and another April 6. Sandy has to testify then. She went back to school full time and stopped Mellaul. Now she called today 2 x from school to say she didn't feel well and wanted to come home. I didn't let her as she always pulls this. She is trying out for softball and track. I think she is still sick. She refuses to live with Garry and Alison but she misses the girls. I called Kirstie on her birthday. She sounds so sad. Betsy sounds great. I miss them. Sandy is lazy and she yells so much at me. I am very lonely but trying to keep busy with church and all. Garry, Alison and the girls all went to Oakton, VA Ward on Sunday for all meetings. He is making himself look so good. He had his attorney question me for 2 straight hours. He is trying to say I am financially physically and mentally incompetent. He will probably get custody and cost thousands of dollars and I will pay all my life. The psych for Sandy wrote a letter to the court on Garry's behalf saying I should have Sandy until the summer, then live with Garry forever. I was furious. You can tell who pays his bill. We are going to a new psych for adolescent tomorrow for Sandy and I pray he helps her and us. Otherwise I will lose Sandy to Garry. He moved into his big new apartment. Sandy's psych doctor said I could not provide for her. I will get food from food truck (welfare LDS) tomorrow. The Bishop wants me to practice my violin and play in Sacrament meeting. Relief Society lesson is this Saturday at 9:30. I plan to go. Sandy goes to Mutual every Tuesday night and plays volleyball. She has lots of friends. The minister that married me and who was to be a character witness for me died March 23 suddenly. He absolutely despised Garry. I feel the loneliness of divorce now. Not the anger, hurt as much as missing someone to love. Do you still want Sandy part of the summer? Betsy is going to CA also so she says. She goes, goes, goes! Well, I am out of room. I miss not hearing from you. The girls don't write and it hurts. Garry gets all credit after I raised them to young ladies. I hope you are all well and hopefully happy. Thank Heavenly Father for your beautiful family. I love you all so much. Write soon. All my love,
Judy
Tuesday, March 16, 1982
March 16, 1982 Sally
Dear Sally,
Today was another court hearing. The psychiatrist Sandy has wrote a letter for Garry saying Sandy should spend the rest of the school year with me and then live permanently with her dad. Now I am just sick and Sandy is furious. This will involve a couple more hearings. Sandy got a blessing last night for the hearing today. She says she will live in a foster home before she lives with Garry. Now it is all going to cost a lot of money that I don't have. Please pray for April 6th - please! Sandy is happy here with me. Why does Garry want her now. She weighs 112# and looks good. She got well with me. I bet she'd get sick back with Garry. He never buys her all this medicine.
I see the Bishop on Sunday at 2:30 to tell him everything and see if he can help. I am going to be a Visiting Teacher too. I hope my legs can do it. I still read my scriptures every day. It really does help. I have been so weepy and depressed. My breast are sore and I must have a hormone imbalance. I see a doctor May 31st. I take a lot of medicines. Can you find Sandy some Orowheat Branola Muffins. They are really good but none in Ohio and she loves them and they help her bowels.
Please write soon. Tell everyone I said "HI" and to write me.
Love,
Judy
Today was another court hearing. The psychiatrist Sandy has wrote a letter for Garry saying Sandy should spend the rest of the school year with me and then live permanently with her dad. Now I am just sick and Sandy is furious. This will involve a couple more hearings. Sandy got a blessing last night for the hearing today. She says she will live in a foster home before she lives with Garry. Now it is all going to cost a lot of money that I don't have. Please pray for April 6th - please! Sandy is happy here with me. Why does Garry want her now. She weighs 112# and looks good. She got well with me. I bet she'd get sick back with Garry. He never buys her all this medicine.
I see the Bishop on Sunday at 2:30 to tell him everything and see if he can help. I am going to be a Visiting Teacher too. I hope my legs can do it. I still read my scriptures every day. It really does help. I have been so weepy and depressed. My breast are sore and I must have a hormone imbalance. I see a doctor May 31st. I take a lot of medicines. Can you find Sandy some Orowheat Branola Muffins. They are really good but none in Ohio and she loves them and they help her bowels.
Please write soon. Tell everyone I said "HI" and to write me.
Love,
Judy
Friday, March 12, 1982
March 12, 1982
Dear Betsy,
I hope you have a very Happy Birthday. I sent your present last week. Did you get your reception gift? Grandma and Grandpa are worried their gift broke. I hope it didn't. I have little news. Sandy is busy a lot and is presently doing homework. It is raining outside and we still have lots of dirty snow. I wish Spring would come. Then by summer it will be too hot for me. How is your weather? I hope to call you on your birthday. What is your new phone #. Remember how very much I love you. I looked at your picture I have out today and I cired of how much I miss my Betsy. I hope you are happy. Please try and write me.
I love you,
Your mom
I hope you have a very Happy Birthday. I sent your present last week. Did you get your reception gift? Grandma and Grandpa are worried their gift broke. I hope it didn't. I have little news. Sandy is busy a lot and is presently doing homework. It is raining outside and we still have lots of dirty snow. I wish Spring would come. Then by summer it will be too hot for me. How is your weather? I hope to call you on your birthday. What is your new phone #. Remember how very much I love you. I looked at your picture I have out today and I cired of how much I miss my Betsy. I hope you are happy. Please try and write me.
I love you,
Your mom
Saturday, February 27, 1982
February 27, 1982
Dear Betsy,
I have a few moments to write you. Sandy is busy studying Health for school. Her tutor will be here again on Tuesday. I need to wash my hair tonight. Sandy is eating well and gaining. She looks really good. She loves ice cream and donuts, etc. She wieghts between 110-115#. Tomorrow we are going to church. Sacrament is at 9:30 am. It is really warm here today. Feels like spring but it is to turn cold tomorrow. We like our apartment. It is small but we manage OK.
Have you moved yet? I hope so. Moving is a hard job. When do you start work at McDonalds? That will be nice for you. Sandy may join Rainbow Girls here. Is it warm in Virginia? Your school grades are very good. I am proud of you. Keep up the good work. I need to go to the store for groceries and some rubber gloves.
Well, I will close. Just wanted you to know I am thinking of you. I wish we could see each other. Take care, honey. Remember, I love you very much. Write soon.
All my love,
Mom
PS: What do you want for your birthday?
I have a few moments to write you. Sandy is busy studying Health for school. Her tutor will be here again on Tuesday. I need to wash my hair tonight. Sandy is eating well and gaining. She looks really good. She loves ice cream and donuts, etc. She wieghts between 110-115#. Tomorrow we are going to church. Sacrament is at 9:30 am. It is really warm here today. Feels like spring but it is to turn cold tomorrow. We like our apartment. It is small but we manage OK.
Have you moved yet? I hope so. Moving is a hard job. When do you start work at McDonalds? That will be nice for you. Sandy may join Rainbow Girls here. Is it warm in Virginia? Your school grades are very good. I am proud of you. Keep up the good work. I need to go to the store for groceries and some rubber gloves.
Well, I will close. Just wanted you to know I am thinking of you. I wish we could see each other. Take care, honey. Remember, I love you very much. Write soon.
All my love,
Mom
PS: What do you want for your birthday?
Monday, February 22, 1982
February 22, 1982
Dear Betsy,
I was happy to recieve your letter and 2 pretty cards. Thank you for the poem and napkins.
Last night we had Grandma and Grandpa and Aunt Ida over for a small home dinner. It is the first I ever cooked a meal for anyone in two years.
It is cold and damp here. Sandy goes to Dr. Multani today. It is a long drive there.
I am proud of your school grades. Keep up the good work. I am reading a good book called "A Perfect Stranger." I usually don't read love stories but this is really good.
What color is dress you made?
I need to sew some more. I have lots of mending. Do you have all my tircot material & elastic, etc. (lace) to make lingerie? I wish you could send it for me. I could some things for all of us.
Well, I will close as this should get in today's mail. Write me soon. Send your new address. I love and miss you.
All my love,
Your mom
I was happy to recieve your letter and 2 pretty cards. Thank you for the poem and napkins.
Last night we had Grandma and Grandpa and Aunt Ida over for a small home dinner. It is the first I ever cooked a meal for anyone in two years.
It is cold and damp here. Sandy goes to Dr. Multani today. It is a long drive there.
I am proud of your school grades. Keep up the good work. I am reading a good book called "A Perfect Stranger." I usually don't read love stories but this is really good.
What color is dress you made?
I need to sew some more. I have lots of mending. Do you have all my tircot material & elastic, etc. (lace) to make lingerie? I wish you could send it for me. I could some things for all of us.
Well, I will close as this should get in today's mail. Write me soon. Send your new address. I love and miss you.
All my love,
Your mom
February 22, 1982 from Sandy
Dear Betsy,
Hi! How was your reception?
I heard you made your dress. Was it difficult? What color was it?
What is this I hear about an autograph book? That was very nice of you. Beth Ann write me a letter, I am suppose to send it to you my letter for her. What is Clair's last name. I'm sending you her letter.
Beth Ann thinks I'm coming back, tell her that I'm not. Mr. McFaden is so nice. I heard he was worried about me, tell him I'm doing better. I got my tutor, she's really nice. She comes Tuesday and Thursday. Her name is Sue. She'll stay about 2 1/2 hours. For every hour she is here I get 2 hours of homework. That's 10 hours a week. Mom thinks your grades are really good and so do I!
We are having Grandma and Grandpa and Aunt Ida over for supper tonight. We are serving ham, green beans, potatoes, and carrot cake. It all looks good.
Well, better close. I'll write a longer letter later. Tell Kristie that her letter is coming. Better go. Miss you.
Love and hugs,
Sandy
PS: I love living with mom.
Hi! How was your reception?
I heard you made your dress. Was it difficult? What color was it?
What is this I hear about an autograph book? That was very nice of you. Beth Ann write me a letter, I am suppose to send it to you my letter for her. What is Clair's last name. I'm sending you her letter.
Beth Ann thinks I'm coming back, tell her that I'm not. Mr. McFaden is so nice. I heard he was worried about me, tell him I'm doing better. I got my tutor, she's really nice. She comes Tuesday and Thursday. Her name is Sue. She'll stay about 2 1/2 hours. For every hour she is here I get 2 hours of homework. That's 10 hours a week. Mom thinks your grades are really good and so do I!
We are having Grandma and Grandpa and Aunt Ida over for supper tonight. We are serving ham, green beans, potatoes, and carrot cake. It all looks good.
Well, better close. I'll write a longer letter later. Tell Kristie that her letter is coming. Better go. Miss you.
Love and hugs,
Sandy
PS: I love living with mom.
Saturday, January 30, 1982
January 30, 1982
My Dearest Betsy,
Recieved your two letters and the inviations. It really sounds like it will be a lovely reception. I have only $22 in my checking account until my Social Security check comes so I have no money. I am sadly afraid I am not going to be able to come. If I fly the airplane fair is $250 round trip plus motel and food. Grandma and Grandpa are afraid to drive me at this time of year. I have to keep my feet up most of the time. Plus the storms of winter have been bad and we could get stranded and my feet would be lost.
I want to come so very much but I don't know how I can afford to fly at this time. Plus Sandy is still in the hospital and I can't see her yet. She is starting to improve thought. I am reading a very good book on Anorexia Nervosa and it is just like Sandy. I hope she will soon be well. This is a long process disease. She will have to have a tutor to go on with school.
We are getting freezing rain sleet and snow. A real mess! This is a very hard winter.
A friend took me to a lovely restaurant for an early celebration of my birthday. I ordered a large chef salad and a bowl of French Onion soup and it was served with one inch thick melted Swiss cheese. It was delicious but salty. I really hold fluids. I am really on a salt free diet. My friend will be in Florida on my birthday.
I made 2 polyester dresses and cut this kettlecloth one out tonight which I am enclosing. I enjoy sewing for myself.
I go to bed fairly early every night and watch TV read or knit or write a letter.
Grandma and Grandpa went to the store tonight for me as it was too cold for me. I do get out and got me a pair of boots to wear in the cold.
The name of the book on Anorexia Nervosa is call "The Golden Cage" if you wnat to get it at a bookstore. The author is Hilde Brunch, MD.
A couple from church came the past two days and helped me put up pictures, etc. I thought that was so nice of them.
My good friend, Julie, has been in a wheel chair since age 11 and a big help to me. She is really overweight but has a heart of gold. She crochets all the time. I can drink one cup of coffee everyday. I really love it and look forward to it. I get up at 6:30 am every morning. Tomorrow I hope I get to church with the bad weather. How is your asthma? I hope you are doing okay.
I hope you can understand about my not being able to come to the reception. I am so sorry I can't and feel sick about it. I can't take a chance of frost biting my feet plus I really don't have the money. I wish it was less to fly. Please try to understand. I love you so much and miss you. My heart longs to see you and wish I could be with you on your special day.
Please write me soon or call me at …. I love to hear from you. I look forward to the mail everyday.
Did I tell you I got my hair cut really short? It looks better and it's easier to take care of. It is so thick. I wash it tonight.
Give my love to Kirstie. Ask her to write me.
Please, honey. I love you dearly and miss you. Write when you can. I am proud of you and your good grades, etc.
I will be 40 years old in a few days. Hard to believe.
I love you and miss you.
All my love,
Your loving mom
Recieved your two letters and the inviations. It really sounds like it will be a lovely reception. I have only $22 in my checking account until my Social Security check comes so I have no money. I am sadly afraid I am not going to be able to come. If I fly the airplane fair is $250 round trip plus motel and food. Grandma and Grandpa are afraid to drive me at this time of year. I have to keep my feet up most of the time. Plus the storms of winter have been bad and we could get stranded and my feet would be lost.
I want to come so very much but I don't know how I can afford to fly at this time. Plus Sandy is still in the hospital and I can't see her yet. She is starting to improve thought. I am reading a very good book on Anorexia Nervosa and it is just like Sandy. I hope she will soon be well. This is a long process disease. She will have to have a tutor to go on with school.
We are getting freezing rain sleet and snow. A real mess! This is a very hard winter.
A friend took me to a lovely restaurant for an early celebration of my birthday. I ordered a large chef salad and a bowl of French Onion soup and it was served with one inch thick melted Swiss cheese. It was delicious but salty. I really hold fluids. I am really on a salt free diet. My friend will be in Florida on my birthday.
I made 2 polyester dresses and cut this kettlecloth one out tonight which I am enclosing. I enjoy sewing for myself.
I go to bed fairly early every night and watch TV read or knit or write a letter.
Grandma and Grandpa went to the store tonight for me as it was too cold for me. I do get out and got me a pair of boots to wear in the cold.
The name of the book on Anorexia Nervosa is call "The Golden Cage" if you wnat to get it at a bookstore. The author is Hilde Brunch, MD.
A couple from church came the past two days and helped me put up pictures, etc. I thought that was so nice of them.
My good friend, Julie, has been in a wheel chair since age 11 and a big help to me. She is really overweight but has a heart of gold. She crochets all the time. I can drink one cup of coffee everyday. I really love it and look forward to it. I get up at 6:30 am every morning. Tomorrow I hope I get to church with the bad weather. How is your asthma? I hope you are doing okay.
I hope you can understand about my not being able to come to the reception. I am so sorry I can't and feel sick about it. I can't take a chance of frost biting my feet plus I really don't have the money. I wish it was less to fly. Please try to understand. I love you so much and miss you. My heart longs to see you and wish I could be with you on your special day.
Please write me soon or call me at …. I love to hear from you. I look forward to the mail everyday.
Did I tell you I got my hair cut really short? It looks better and it's easier to take care of. It is so thick. I wash it tonight.
Give my love to Kirstie. Ask her to write me.
Please, honey. I love you dearly and miss you. Write when you can. I am proud of you and your good grades, etc.
I will be 40 years old in a few days. Hard to believe.
I love you and miss you.
All my love,
Your loving mom
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