Dear Betsy,
I got your three letters. I am still in St. Charles Hospital. They are studying my feet and legs. I go to physical therapy 2x a day for my back. They use hot packs and ultra sound heat treatments. It helps a lot. I am still vomiting my meals and they don't know why but plan to send me home soon.
I think it would be a great plan and idea to move to VA. I am sure they have low income housing in Reston. Then I would be with all of you and Mark and Markel. Believe this - even your grandma thinks it is a good idea!! She says she and Grandpa are getting old and may die at any time. I have nothing in Toledo.
Aunt Ida will soon be leaving Toledo Hospital after her stroke and go to a nursing home. My mother has her power of attorney. She plans to sell her car and then the house. I have bot been to see her. She listens when I talk to her on the phone. I have been sick since she has. Mom mom calls me from the hospital so Aunt Ida can hear my voice. She seems to respond to me. She can't talk or use her right side. It is sad. She would have preferred to have died fast. She and I used to talk 3-4x a day and she adored Markel. I miss her a lot.
Honey, I need to be around my children. I get so lonely and depressed. It is hard to live in pain and have Bob living so close to me.
This year marks the 25th class reunion of Toledo Hospital school of nursing. It is on June 11-12 & I pray I can go. There was 44 in our class. Plus your Dad and I would have been married 245 years in November. I wish things could have been different. Grandma and Grandpa will be married 50 years in May. That's a long time.
So what are you really feeling about Kermon? I can imagine it is a difficult time for your life and you have many mixed feelings. I hope everything works out for you.
I have been in the hospital 7 days. I would like to go home but I still am vomiting.
It is snowing hard outside and getting cold so the weather says. We have had a mild winter so far. I don't mind the winter weather (It's 5 above).
Where is Blacksburg? How far from Reston?
So you agree Markel is a doll. I miss her. If I move to VA I can watch her grow. I think you are a good Aunt.
Did you make New Year's Resolution? I didn't but will soon. I have to get my driver's license renewed before my birthday. Do you realize you will be 22 and I will be 46.
Grandma has changed since Aunt Ida and then me have been sick. She is more understanding and even tells me all the times she loves me. She is going to Scotland in April for Eastern Star. She is Grand Representative to Scotland for State of Ohio. She is Secretary of Eastern Stars, etc. She keeps busy.
As long as I live in Toledo Bob will be after me. He helps pass time. He likes to go to expensive places to eat and drink wine. I wish I could find low income housing in VA. Please look into for me. I am sure one of you told me there was low income in Reston. Get my name on a waiting list.
Well, I am out of news. Thanks again for the lovely tapes. I will get lots of use out of them. Pray I can move to VA. I hope I feel better soon.
Take care and write honey.
I love you so much,
All my life,
Mom
Monday, January 25, 1988
Thursday, January 21, 1988
January 21, 1988
Dear Betsy,
I got the lovely tapes and really do enjoy. I hear you adore Markel. I wish I could see her again.
I have been in St. Charles Hospital 3 days now because I was sick. I was so dehydrated. They called a specialist in to do some testing. I have an upper GI tomorrow plus I had lots of blood tests. They just took the IV out about 10 minutes ago. My wrist was so swollen. I have diarrhea but I have been vomiting a lot at home and a little here. I am eating better. There could be several things wrong but I'll keep you posted.
We have snow flurries today and colder. My room is a private and comfortable. The nurses keep busy. My watch needs a new battery so I have Grandpa's black one.
Aunt Ida had a bad stroke. She can't talk and they took her IV out and she has a tube in her nose to her stomach to feed her. She can't use her right arm. She is on antidepressants but starting to respond a little. She sleeps a lot.
Well, I hope all is well. I am glad you got to see Markel. Who do you think she looks like? She is a cutie but I am her grandma.
Well, I will close. I'll write more later. Write me please. I love you, honey & I miss you.
All my love,
Mom
You'll soon be 22 - I'll be 46
I got the lovely tapes and really do enjoy. I hear you adore Markel. I wish I could see her again.
I have been in St. Charles Hospital 3 days now because I was sick. I was so dehydrated. They called a specialist in to do some testing. I have an upper GI tomorrow plus I had lots of blood tests. They just took the IV out about 10 minutes ago. My wrist was so swollen. I have diarrhea but I have been vomiting a lot at home and a little here. I am eating better. There could be several things wrong but I'll keep you posted.
We have snow flurries today and colder. My room is a private and comfortable. The nurses keep busy. My watch needs a new battery so I have Grandpa's black one.
Aunt Ida had a bad stroke. She can't talk and they took her IV out and she has a tube in her nose to her stomach to feed her. She can't use her right arm. She is on antidepressants but starting to respond a little. She sleeps a lot.
Well, I hope all is well. I am glad you got to see Markel. Who do you think she looks like? She is a cutie but I am her grandma.
Well, I will close. I'll write more later. Write me please. I love you, honey & I miss you.
All my love,
Mom
You'll soon be 22 - I'll be 46
Monday, January 11, 1988
January 11, 1988
Dear Betsy,
I don't think I have written for a while. I am sorry. I got sick with pleurisy and that hurt. But it is gone now.
Sandy wrote the other day. Mark is staying with your dad. I hope he finds work soon. Sandy is worried. He wants Sandy and Markel to go there and she wants to be with him. But she said if he is in the same position he was in Provo, she can't see moving there. I agree with her. He needs a good secure job.
Markel is really growing. She has a cute personality Sandy says. She has rice cereal and fruit now. In 8 days she will be 4 months. That is hard to believe. She was so small when I saw her.
I hate my hair. I first had it cut short and curly permed a year ago. I had it done 2 more times. It is so think but is growing. I am going to let it grow. It is really curly after I wash it. After I sleep on it, it is a mess of fuzz. It's growing especially in the back. I need to get it thinned.
It is pretty and warmer here. Supposed to be in the 40s tomorrow. Have you been so cold like Toledo? We only got a couple inches of snow.
I give B12 shots to a few here and I do BP once a month. People come also extra times for BP etc, but no one pays me. Most have lots more money than me.
I go to the community room for a cup of coffee 2x every morning. I love my coffee. I probably shouldn't drink it. It's hard on the belly. the pill I have to take for my back is really upsetting to it, but I can't get along without it.
By the way, how is Michael? Let me know. I must get this in today's mail so I will close. I miss you. Remember I love you dearly.
Please write.
Are you settled in your new place? I hope so. Have you found my Christmas present?
I love you,
Love,
Mom
I don't think I have written for a while. I am sorry. I got sick with pleurisy and that hurt. But it is gone now.
Sandy wrote the other day. Mark is staying with your dad. I hope he finds work soon. Sandy is worried. He wants Sandy and Markel to go there and she wants to be with him. But she said if he is in the same position he was in Provo, she can't see moving there. I agree with her. He needs a good secure job.
Markel is really growing. She has a cute personality Sandy says. She has rice cereal and fruit now. In 8 days she will be 4 months. That is hard to believe. She was so small when I saw her.
I hate my hair. I first had it cut short and curly permed a year ago. I had it done 2 more times. It is so think but is growing. I am going to let it grow. It is really curly after I wash it. After I sleep on it, it is a mess of fuzz. It's growing especially in the back. I need to get it thinned.
It is pretty and warmer here. Supposed to be in the 40s tomorrow. Have you been so cold like Toledo? We only got a couple inches of snow.
I give B12 shots to a few here and I do BP once a month. People come also extra times for BP etc, but no one pays me. Most have lots more money than me.
I go to the community room for a cup of coffee 2x every morning. I love my coffee. I probably shouldn't drink it. It's hard on the belly. the pill I have to take for my back is really upsetting to it, but I can't get along without it.
By the way, how is Michael? Let me know. I must get this in today's mail so I will close. I miss you. Remember I love you dearly.
Please write.
Are you settled in your new place? I hope so. Have you found my Christmas present?
I love you,
Love,
Mom
Friday, December 25, 1987
December 25, 1987
Dear Betsy,
I hope you have a lovely Christmas. I don't know what I am doing. A lot depends on the weather. I got yours and Kirstie's alike because I thought you were going to elsewhere but really I like what they say.
I have been wrapping presents and I have to get my dad to send the packages. I hope yours makes it in time. I think Markel looks like you did when you were small. I told your dad that she is beautiful and perfect. I hope they have a good Christmas.
Well, I have little news. I love you dearly. I miss you too. I wish we could be together for the Holidays.
I love you,
All my love,
Mom
My Dearest Betsy,
The happiest of memories
The nicest to recall,
Are all the Christmases we shared
When you were very small…
And even though you've grown up now
And time has changed some things,
The years can never change the love
This special greeting brings.
Have a Wonderful Christmas
I love you honey!
All my love,
Mom
I hope you have a lovely Christmas. I don't know what I am doing. A lot depends on the weather. I got yours and Kirstie's alike because I thought you were going to elsewhere but really I like what they say.
I have been wrapping presents and I have to get my dad to send the packages. I hope yours makes it in time. I think Markel looks like you did when you were small. I told your dad that she is beautiful and perfect. I hope they have a good Christmas.
Well, I have little news. I love you dearly. I miss you too. I wish we could be together for the Holidays.
I love you,
All my love,
Mom
My Dearest Betsy,
The happiest of memories
The nicest to recall,
Are all the Christmases we shared
When you were very small…
And even though you've grown up now
And time has changed some things,
The years can never change the love
This special greeting brings.
Have a Wonderful Christmas
I love you honey!
All my love,
Mom
Saturday, December 12, 1987
December 12, 1987
Dear Betsy,
I got your letter yesterday. So you and Kermon are through. I hope your new place is nice. I need your address and phone number. Where shall I send your and Kirstie's Christmas presents? I have no idea where Kirstie lives. I need to write her and I have Christmas cards for you both.
Betsy, I have been really sick. My ulcer is very bad and I have been too sick to do anything. The doctor put me on Zantac and Carafate. I was so weak. I am better today but I am on a very bland diet and I can't eat much at one time. Not even a salad. I don't miss it because I know how sick it would make me.
I drink antacid every 2 hours while I am awake. I had a lot of pain and vomiting of pure acid. These 2 medicines are so helpful. Two days ago I could do nothing and so weak. I have to take iron again. I have lost a few pounds. I think that is an improvement. I was up to 127# and all my belly.
What started the ulcer up again was the new back pills like Motrin and those. It is disalsid and isn't supposed to cause stomach problems. I have to take it so I have to keep the ulcer under control. I have had three bad previous ones that bleed so I know I can't eat chill or taco salad anymore.
I get Markel a darling cloth doll for ages up to 2 years. It is cute and colorful. Next year will be lots of fun buying for her. What did you get her? She is so young for much. My parents got her a teddy bear which says "My First Teddy."
Our weather is cold and windy now. This time of year I get depressed. I can't go anywhere and I miss parties, dancing, etc. I go to bed most nights at 7 pm and stay in bed until 7 am. What a life? I can't even shop at the mall. I can't walk much and they are all so crowded. I don't even have a Christmas tree.
I wish I could see you for Christmas. I miss you so much. Thanks again for the pictures. You are so pretty and beautiful. How is the asthma? I hope better. You know, I pray for you every night. I really do love you.
My parents are coming tomorrow and bringing a few groceries. I had them get a box of cards for Christmas. I am going to wrap all the presents. Then they have to be boxed.
Bob gave me a box with 35 petit fours and they are dark chocolate except for 7 which are white and spell Grandma. Really pretty. He comes to see me but he is grumpy most of the time. His BP is high. I know he doesn't feel well. He wants me to take him places to eat, etc.
Well, I hope and pray you are well and happy. Please write me soon. I miss you. Remember, Betsy, honey, I love you very much.
All my love,
Mom
I got your letter yesterday. So you and Kermon are through. I hope your new place is nice. I need your address and phone number. Where shall I send your and Kirstie's Christmas presents? I have no idea where Kirstie lives. I need to write her and I have Christmas cards for you both.
Betsy, I have been really sick. My ulcer is very bad and I have been too sick to do anything. The doctor put me on Zantac and Carafate. I was so weak. I am better today but I am on a very bland diet and I can't eat much at one time. Not even a salad. I don't miss it because I know how sick it would make me.
I drink antacid every 2 hours while I am awake. I had a lot of pain and vomiting of pure acid. These 2 medicines are so helpful. Two days ago I could do nothing and so weak. I have to take iron again. I have lost a few pounds. I think that is an improvement. I was up to 127# and all my belly.
What started the ulcer up again was the new back pills like Motrin and those. It is disalsid and isn't supposed to cause stomach problems. I have to take it so I have to keep the ulcer under control. I have had three bad previous ones that bleed so I know I can't eat chill or taco salad anymore.
I get Markel a darling cloth doll for ages up to 2 years. It is cute and colorful. Next year will be lots of fun buying for her. What did you get her? She is so young for much. My parents got her a teddy bear which says "My First Teddy."
Our weather is cold and windy now. This time of year I get depressed. I can't go anywhere and I miss parties, dancing, etc. I go to bed most nights at 7 pm and stay in bed until 7 am. What a life? I can't even shop at the mall. I can't walk much and they are all so crowded. I don't even have a Christmas tree.
I wish I could see you for Christmas. I miss you so much. Thanks again for the pictures. You are so pretty and beautiful. How is the asthma? I hope better. You know, I pray for you every night. I really do love you.
My parents are coming tomorrow and bringing a few groceries. I had them get a box of cards for Christmas. I am going to wrap all the presents. Then they have to be boxed.
Bob gave me a box with 35 petit fours and they are dark chocolate except for 7 which are white and spell Grandma. Really pretty. He comes to see me but he is grumpy most of the time. His BP is high. I know he doesn't feel well. He wants me to take him places to eat, etc.
Well, I hope and pray you are well and happy. Please write me soon. I miss you. Remember, Betsy, honey, I love you very much.
All my love,
Mom
Wednesday, December 9, 1987
December 9, 1987
Dear Betsy,
This is not your Christmas card. I have a special one for you. Your present should be at Soapstone. I mailed a box by UPS. My health isn't good and our apartment is a mess. My hip has bursitis and is infected. My ankles and feet are swollen. I miss you but I can't afford to call plus I never know when to call. How is work going?
Our bathroom floor is half soaked with water. The apartment above has the problem and of course, it is a weekend and no one is around. Plus, Bob has no trousers and I needed to laundry them. I took all the stuff down the basement and loaded the wasing machine and put soap in…pushed my buttons and went to put my 75 cents in and discover it is jammed.
Everything is getting to me. I feel like my nerves can't take much more. Bob sleeps so much. I made a good supper but he is still sleeping. In half an hour someone is bring me a cup of coffee from Friendly's. I love coffee and it makes me pee. Yesterday our friends brought boxes of things from Bob's freezer and refrig. She let a turkey, 2 chickens, spare ribs, etc. defrost for 4 days so I had to throw them out. I do have butter and cheese. This really upset me. So this is a depressing letter. I love you and hope things are getting good for you.
I went looking for spaghetti sauce and spaghetti in the storage area in a cabinet and could only find the sauce. So we have eggs Delmonico. It is good but hard on my legs.
Sandy and Kirstie want to come for Christmas but I haven't got the money. I'd love to have them. I am afraid this is going to be a very depressing Christmas. We are poor and life looks gloomy. I miss you so much. My health robbed me of you and your teen years. I raised you but your Dad gets the credit. I am so sorry I got sick and he made me leave and not come in 6 months unless I was better. Well, I wasn't so you all went and Alison to Washington DC.
At least we had this visit this summer and I really loved every minute. You are a wonderful girl.
What is the David situation? What are you doing for Christmas? I hope you have a very nice Christmas. I have you in my thoughts all the time. Bob likes you so much. I am glad. He always wants to know about you.
Well, I guess I will close now and get this in the mail. I hope you are happy and well. Please write me. I miss hearing from you. Remember I love you very much and you are special in my life. I heard "You Light Up My Life" today and cried. I do remember your Installation.
Take care. Write.
All My love,
Mom and Bob
This is not your Christmas card. I have a special one for you. Your present should be at Soapstone. I mailed a box by UPS. My health isn't good and our apartment is a mess. My hip has bursitis and is infected. My ankles and feet are swollen. I miss you but I can't afford to call plus I never know when to call. How is work going?
Our bathroom floor is half soaked with water. The apartment above has the problem and of course, it is a weekend and no one is around. Plus, Bob has no trousers and I needed to laundry them. I took all the stuff down the basement and loaded the wasing machine and put soap in…pushed my buttons and went to put my 75 cents in and discover it is jammed.
Everything is getting to me. I feel like my nerves can't take much more. Bob sleeps so much. I made a good supper but he is still sleeping. In half an hour someone is bring me a cup of coffee from Friendly's. I love coffee and it makes me pee. Yesterday our friends brought boxes of things from Bob's freezer and refrig. She let a turkey, 2 chickens, spare ribs, etc. defrost for 4 days so I had to throw them out. I do have butter and cheese. This really upset me. So this is a depressing letter. I love you and hope things are getting good for you.
I went looking for spaghetti sauce and spaghetti in the storage area in a cabinet and could only find the sauce. So we have eggs Delmonico. It is good but hard on my legs.
Sandy and Kirstie want to come for Christmas but I haven't got the money. I'd love to have them. I am afraid this is going to be a very depressing Christmas. We are poor and life looks gloomy. I miss you so much. My health robbed me of you and your teen years. I raised you but your Dad gets the credit. I am so sorry I got sick and he made me leave and not come in 6 months unless I was better. Well, I wasn't so you all went and Alison to Washington DC.
At least we had this visit this summer and I really loved every minute. You are a wonderful girl.
What is the David situation? What are you doing for Christmas? I hope you have a very nice Christmas. I have you in my thoughts all the time. Bob likes you so much. I am glad. He always wants to know about you.
Well, I guess I will close now and get this in the mail. I hope you are happy and well. Please write me. I miss hearing from you. Remember I love you very much and you are special in my life. I heard "You Light Up My Life" today and cried. I do remember your Installation.
Take care. Write.
All My love,
Mom and Bob
Tuesday, December 1, 1987
December 1, 19t
Dear Betsy,
Today it is raining and snowing at the same time and cold. It isn't sticking. Kelly is even cold.
How was your Thanksgiving? Min was terrible. I saw no one. My parents and Aunt Ida went to a fancy place. The wheater was too cold for me. They never even came to see me. I ate a salad, cottage cheese and spinach. Bob wanted to take me out to eat but it was cold.
Bob and I went to Fisches for soup, salad and fruit bar for $3.29. It was very good. We went on Saturday and I ran a few errands. We got ice cream at a special store. I can't do much when it's so cold or too hot. My feet got hot and hurt really bad. I then did all my laundry and it took 3 1/2 hours and 18 quarters. That room is so hot, it really ruined my feet. Then my electric blanket quit working and I can't get out to get a new twin blue one. The malls are so packed. I can't walk that much anymore. My back is better. My parents actually got my groceries for me and I paid them. I think I made them feel guilty. They don't help me much.
I watch TV all afternoon. I listen to tapes in the morning and read.
I was so depressed Thanksgiving. I could have gone to our community room for free dinner but it was hot and packed and all old people. I don't really belong in here in that respect. I can go get a mug of coffee a couple of times a day (15 cents each). It is a good buy and good coffee. I guess I am the only one in the family that loves coffee. Does Kirstie drink coffee? Your dad didn't and Bob doesn't. I couldn't get up in the morning if I didn't have something hot to drink. I hot hot oatmeal this morning. I made it with milk. I lost 6# but it is coming back. I drink Swiss Miss cocoa and I put marshmallows in it. I made it with 1/2 milk. I have it before I go to bed. Some nights I warm up a cup of eggnog. That's why I gain weight but I don't care.
So how are you honey? What did you do for Thanksgiving? Where are you going or doing for Christmas? Where do I send your present? What about Kirstie? Please give me her address and phone number.
Well, I will close so I can mail it. I love you. I hope you are feeling better by now. Take care of yourself. Write real soon.
All my love,
Mom
I love you, honey
Today it is raining and snowing at the same time and cold. It isn't sticking. Kelly is even cold.
How was your Thanksgiving? Min was terrible. I saw no one. My parents and Aunt Ida went to a fancy place. The wheater was too cold for me. They never even came to see me. I ate a salad, cottage cheese and spinach. Bob wanted to take me out to eat but it was cold.
Bob and I went to Fisches for soup, salad and fruit bar for $3.29. It was very good. We went on Saturday and I ran a few errands. We got ice cream at a special store. I can't do much when it's so cold or too hot. My feet got hot and hurt really bad. I then did all my laundry and it took 3 1/2 hours and 18 quarters. That room is so hot, it really ruined my feet. Then my electric blanket quit working and I can't get out to get a new twin blue one. The malls are so packed. I can't walk that much anymore. My back is better. My parents actually got my groceries for me and I paid them. I think I made them feel guilty. They don't help me much.
I watch TV all afternoon. I listen to tapes in the morning and read.
I was so depressed Thanksgiving. I could have gone to our community room for free dinner but it was hot and packed and all old people. I don't really belong in here in that respect. I can go get a mug of coffee a couple of times a day (15 cents each). It is a good buy and good coffee. I guess I am the only one in the family that loves coffee. Does Kirstie drink coffee? Your dad didn't and Bob doesn't. I couldn't get up in the morning if I didn't have something hot to drink. I hot hot oatmeal this morning. I made it with milk. I lost 6# but it is coming back. I drink Swiss Miss cocoa and I put marshmallows in it. I made it with 1/2 milk. I have it before I go to bed. Some nights I warm up a cup of eggnog. That's why I gain weight but I don't care.
So how are you honey? What did you do for Thanksgiving? Where are you going or doing for Christmas? Where do I send your present? What about Kirstie? Please give me her address and phone number.
Well, I will close so I can mail it. I love you. I hope you are feeling better by now. Take care of yourself. Write real soon.
All my love,
Mom
I love you, honey
Tuesday, November 24, 1987
November 24, 1987
Dear Betsy,
I am so sorry you aren't feeling well. I hope you are better soon. Take call the Amoxicillin. It should help. It was good hearing from you.
My stomach has a lot of acid. So I have to be careful what I eat and not eat too much at one time. I take Tagament to reduce the acid. It does help and prevents ulcers. I already had three bad ones.
What are you doing for Thanksgiving? I am staying here. It is Grandpa's birthday soon. They are going to a special buffet and taking Aunt Ida. This is a time of year that brings back good memories. I miss you and all of it. I wish I could have stayed healthy. We'd still all be together. Christmas is soon. Are you going to your dads? What about Kirstie? I don't have a new address. Should I send your gift to your dads? Let me know.
These two coupons expire soon so use them.
My cat Kelly is my buddy. She is so sweet and lots of company. I tell her all my troubles and she listens. I comb her everyday.
It was good to say hi to Kermon. He seems really nice. That is good he takes care of you when you are sick. I do hope you are better. I wish I lived in VA. Then we could see each other.
Grandma said to say "hi." She also said nicely that she hoped you and Kermon were happy. She is so busy. She is Secretary of Eastern Stars and an officer in all the clubs. Really. She has her nose in it all - luncheons - suppers, etc. She and Grandpa are rarely home. Grandpa's jaw and cheek pain are gone because of the surgery. He has tickling numbness.
Bob is slipping. He doesn't eat. He is poor and doesn't know how to handle money. I do things for him when I can. He takes me out to eat. He still can be so nasty. Not like he used to be. He is so different from the Bob I married. We were legally separated so I can stay on his insurance. It is very good plus I have medicare. My total income per month is $360. Not much. Bob took me to Red Lobster on Sunday and I had Boston Bluefish. Really good. Coffee is 85 cents since Bob has been so sick his whole personality has changed. He doesn't take care of himself and his apartment is a real mess to say the least.
Well, I hope you have a nice Thanksgiving. I love you so very much. Write soon. Give Kermon my love. Take care. Get better soon.
All my love,
Mom
I am so sorry you aren't feeling well. I hope you are better soon. Take call the Amoxicillin. It should help. It was good hearing from you.
My stomach has a lot of acid. So I have to be careful what I eat and not eat too much at one time. I take Tagament to reduce the acid. It does help and prevents ulcers. I already had three bad ones.
What are you doing for Thanksgiving? I am staying here. It is Grandpa's birthday soon. They are going to a special buffet and taking Aunt Ida. This is a time of year that brings back good memories. I miss you and all of it. I wish I could have stayed healthy. We'd still all be together. Christmas is soon. Are you going to your dads? What about Kirstie? I don't have a new address. Should I send your gift to your dads? Let me know.
These two coupons expire soon so use them.
My cat Kelly is my buddy. She is so sweet and lots of company. I tell her all my troubles and she listens. I comb her everyday.
It was good to say hi to Kermon. He seems really nice. That is good he takes care of you when you are sick. I do hope you are better. I wish I lived in VA. Then we could see each other.
Grandma said to say "hi." She also said nicely that she hoped you and Kermon were happy. She is so busy. She is Secretary of Eastern Stars and an officer in all the clubs. Really. She has her nose in it all - luncheons - suppers, etc. She and Grandpa are rarely home. Grandpa's jaw and cheek pain are gone because of the surgery. He has tickling numbness.
Bob is slipping. He doesn't eat. He is poor and doesn't know how to handle money. I do things for him when I can. He takes me out to eat. He still can be so nasty. Not like he used to be. He is so different from the Bob I married. We were legally separated so I can stay on his insurance. It is very good plus I have medicare. My total income per month is $360. Not much. Bob took me to Red Lobster on Sunday and I had Boston Bluefish. Really good. Coffee is 85 cents since Bob has been so sick his whole personality has changed. He doesn't take care of himself and his apartment is a real mess to say the least.
Well, I hope you have a nice Thanksgiving. I love you so very much. Write soon. Give Kermon my love. Take care. Get better soon.
All my love,
Mom
Wednesday, November 18, 1987
November 18, 1987
Dear Betsy,
I got your nice letter yesterday. I am glad you are happy. I am really concerned about Sandy. That is one reason I couldn't move there. Sandy wasn't certain she and Mark would stay in Provo more than a year. Well, I would have been there all alone. I couldn't afford to move there. I hope Mark gets a better job. She says Markel is really growing. She is so pretty. I feel so helpless for Sandy.
Did I tell you my back was really hurting me? It hasn't been bad since 1976. I went to an orthopedic doctor on Monday. He examined me and got x-ray. He showed me the x-rays and shook his head. Well, my degenerative disc disease of L5S1 is really bad. He can no longer do a fusion or inject the space with cortisone. I have to take a very potent medicine called Feldene. In 5-10 years I will be stiff. He said he was sorry but nothing can really be done. The medicine he gave can cause ulcers so I have to be very careful. The medicine is good and helps the pain. I guess my body is aging too fast. He said I was very young for all that back trouble.
Next day
Maybe when winter is over can could meet 1/2 way. I may be able to drive that far. It would be so good to see you. I couldn't afford a motel for long but I'd love to be with your again.
Sounds like your party was a success. I used to love to entertain.
I think Aunt Ida is getting me an electric can opener for Christmas. My parents may get me a small microwave. I hope.
Kelly is my buddy. You'd love her but would probably have an attack from her. She sleeps with me.
It is cold here but sunny. I read a lot. My back is worse when it is so cold and damp. I like dreary days thought because the don't hurt my feet so much.
I have to sit on the floor most of the day. It is cooler down there. I keep the heat on but crack the window open for my feet.
My ortho doctor also wants me to get hydrotherapy for my back. He is afraid it may hurt my feet because the water is warm. He said a back brace wouldn't help now. I used to wear one. I hated the thing. It is so uncomfortable.
Bob wants to take me out to eat this afternoon. It is a hard decision. I'd like a good meal but that w/c weighs 50#.
I bought some eggnog and I heat it every night and drink a cup. I love it. I also love McDonald's bacon, egg and cheese biscuit for breakfast. I would like those gift certificates.
My Christmas list for you is enclosed. I don't expect you to buy me much. All I need is your love.
Remember, honey I love you very much and I miss you and Kirstie. I wish Kirstie would write me. I am so glad you do. It means so much to me. Well, I will close.
All my love,
Your mom
I love you!!!
I got your nice letter yesterday. I am glad you are happy. I am really concerned about Sandy. That is one reason I couldn't move there. Sandy wasn't certain she and Mark would stay in Provo more than a year. Well, I would have been there all alone. I couldn't afford to move there. I hope Mark gets a better job. She says Markel is really growing. She is so pretty. I feel so helpless for Sandy.
Did I tell you my back was really hurting me? It hasn't been bad since 1976. I went to an orthopedic doctor on Monday. He examined me and got x-ray. He showed me the x-rays and shook his head. Well, my degenerative disc disease of L5S1 is really bad. He can no longer do a fusion or inject the space with cortisone. I have to take a very potent medicine called Feldene. In 5-10 years I will be stiff. He said he was sorry but nothing can really be done. The medicine he gave can cause ulcers so I have to be very careful. The medicine is good and helps the pain. I guess my body is aging too fast. He said I was very young for all that back trouble.
Next day
Maybe when winter is over can could meet 1/2 way. I may be able to drive that far. It would be so good to see you. I couldn't afford a motel for long but I'd love to be with your again.
Sounds like your party was a success. I used to love to entertain.
I think Aunt Ida is getting me an electric can opener for Christmas. My parents may get me a small microwave. I hope.
Kelly is my buddy. You'd love her but would probably have an attack from her. She sleeps with me.
It is cold here but sunny. I read a lot. My back is worse when it is so cold and damp. I like dreary days thought because the don't hurt my feet so much.
I have to sit on the floor most of the day. It is cooler down there. I keep the heat on but crack the window open for my feet.
My ortho doctor also wants me to get hydrotherapy for my back. He is afraid it may hurt my feet because the water is warm. He said a back brace wouldn't help now. I used to wear one. I hated the thing. It is so uncomfortable.
Bob wants to take me out to eat this afternoon. It is a hard decision. I'd like a good meal but that w/c weighs 50#.
I bought some eggnog and I heat it every night and drink a cup. I love it. I also love McDonald's bacon, egg and cheese biscuit for breakfast. I would like those gift certificates.
My Christmas list for you is enclosed. I don't expect you to buy me much. All I need is your love.
Remember, honey I love you very much and I miss you and Kirstie. I wish Kirstie would write me. I am so glad you do. It means so much to me. Well, I will close.
All my love,
Your mom
I love you!!!
Tuesday, November 10, 1987
November 10, 1987
Dear Betsy,
Hi! Sandy sent your pictures and letter on Friday. I love the pictures. I put htem in my photo album. You are really pretty and so is Kirstie. I could use even a little of your boobs. I lost out on them.
Sandy and Mark sound desparate for money. Markel is fine. I think Mark is looking for jobs. Sandy is working. She called to see if I have any money and I can't help. I only get $360 a month for social security and that is it. I hope they can work something out. It cost me of $700 to go to Utah.
I read in the morning and watch TV soaps in the afternoon. I like "Young and Restless". Aunt Ida lives for it. It is an hour she can't miss. I like "Bold and Beautiful" and "General Hospital."
My teeth are in bad shape. I think I am going to have one tooth pulled out and I hate too. My teeth hurt all the time. They are so sensitive.
Bob has been in and out of the hospital 25 out of 30 days for really high BP. He is home now and on lots of medicine. I help him a lot. We are separated.
My cat is fine. She has doubled her food intake but still nice size. I love her. She sleeps with me. Oh remember the stuffed Siamese cat you gave me when you were 12. Well, it is on my bed and she knocked it over the other day. She must think it is real. She is so cute.
It is cold here. I am trapped inside. It's the wind chill. I sit all day on a pillow case on the floor. It keeps my feet cook but very uncomfortable. My back aches a lot.
Next day
My dad is getting my groceries for me. They make a big deal out of it. They never come see me. They are too busy. Do you realize Christmas is almost here? I need to do a little shopping. I don't even know your sizes. My mother was just 68. You are the only grandchild who remembered her. I am proud of you!!
Tomorrow it is supposed to be 50-55 so I can get out a little. I am on a diet I have a huge bulge below my waist and it stays there since I am immobile and can't exercise. I gained 8# in less than 2 months. The doctor increased my thyroid. Plus I was on a medicine for my feet and legs that can cause weight gain so I stopped it. I am no longer on antidepressants. I just wish I were healthy and no problems. I must have inherited all bad genes. I work on my journal at times. Do you write in one?
Well, I don't have much news. I hope you are well and happy. Tell Kermon I said "HI". When are you going to come and see me? I miss you. Remember, I love you, honey, so very much. If my health had survived and I had stayed with the Mormon church in California, I strongly believe your dad and I would have made it. November 23 we would have been married since 1963 - 24 years. The other night when I was trying to sleep, all I could think about was how we met, dated, marriage, etc. I have always loved him. I regret what happened. I am no longer angry, bitter, etc. He will always have a place in my heart.
Well, I want to get this mailed soon. Take care, honey, and write me.
Thanks again for the pictures. I love you.
All my love,
Mom
Hi! Sandy sent your pictures and letter on Friday. I love the pictures. I put htem in my photo album. You are really pretty and so is Kirstie. I could use even a little of your boobs. I lost out on them.
Sandy and Mark sound desparate for money. Markel is fine. I think Mark is looking for jobs. Sandy is working. She called to see if I have any money and I can't help. I only get $360 a month for social security and that is it. I hope they can work something out. It cost me of $700 to go to Utah.
I read in the morning and watch TV soaps in the afternoon. I like "Young and Restless". Aunt Ida lives for it. It is an hour she can't miss. I like "Bold and Beautiful" and "General Hospital."
My teeth are in bad shape. I think I am going to have one tooth pulled out and I hate too. My teeth hurt all the time. They are so sensitive.
Bob has been in and out of the hospital 25 out of 30 days for really high BP. He is home now and on lots of medicine. I help him a lot. We are separated.
My cat is fine. She has doubled her food intake but still nice size. I love her. She sleeps with me. Oh remember the stuffed Siamese cat you gave me when you were 12. Well, it is on my bed and she knocked it over the other day. She must think it is real. She is so cute.
It is cold here. I am trapped inside. It's the wind chill. I sit all day on a pillow case on the floor. It keeps my feet cook but very uncomfortable. My back aches a lot.
Next day
My dad is getting my groceries for me. They make a big deal out of it. They never come see me. They are too busy. Do you realize Christmas is almost here? I need to do a little shopping. I don't even know your sizes. My mother was just 68. You are the only grandchild who remembered her. I am proud of you!!
Tomorrow it is supposed to be 50-55 so I can get out a little. I am on a diet I have a huge bulge below my waist and it stays there since I am immobile and can't exercise. I gained 8# in less than 2 months. The doctor increased my thyroid. Plus I was on a medicine for my feet and legs that can cause weight gain so I stopped it. I am no longer on antidepressants. I just wish I were healthy and no problems. I must have inherited all bad genes. I work on my journal at times. Do you write in one?
Well, I don't have much news. I hope you are well and happy. Tell Kermon I said "HI". When are you going to come and see me? I miss you. Remember, I love you, honey, so very much. If my health had survived and I had stayed with the Mormon church in California, I strongly believe your dad and I would have made it. November 23 we would have been married since 1963 - 24 years. The other night when I was trying to sleep, all I could think about was how we met, dated, marriage, etc. I have always loved him. I regret what happened. I am no longer angry, bitter, etc. He will always have a place in my heart.
Well, I want to get this mailed soon. Take care, honey, and write me.
Thanks again for the pictures. I love you.
All my love,
Mom
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